my wife's libido has plummeted....?

Question

me and my wife had recently had a child about 7months ago and her labido seems to be gradually decreasing, she says she just feels no sex drive anymore... we used to make love about three times a day now we are down to once a week mabey... shes all and willing to try any medication, herbs, supplaments, positions, karma sutra? anything.. what about estrogen pros and cons anything that you know could kick her hormones back in gear we both would be appreciative... please only honost educated awnsers help please thank you

Answer 1

I am in your wife's shoes right now. I have always been that woman who had a higher sex drive than any of her partners, have always been ready and more than willing, have been the instigator. Now, for no apparent reason, I am completely flat and lifeless in that area, I have no stamina or creativity or even any real interest in having sex anymore. My poor kind husband is at a loss as to how to deal with this, but is being as patient as he can. I have had 2 children in the past with no effect on my sex drive, but now, after our now 14 month old was born, I have no interest whatsoever.

First of all, please be kind to her and don't take it personally. It isn't about you, it's about her, but doubtless she is also unable to understand it herself. My husband has done a number of things to inspire me, all with little success. It's not that we don't have sex, but it has become depressingly like a chore to me which I take GREAT pains not to let him know.

Second, approach it with her in terms of it could be a symptom of a medical condition that should be looked into, it's not that you're saying... "Go to the doctor and get this sorted because I want to get laid!", but rather... "This is such a marked change in you hunni and I'm worried for you, let's make sure it's not a sign of a bigger problem." You will still have the result you want, without making her feel even worse about it.

Best of Luck!! I am yet to see a doctor myself, being really embarrased and a little ashamed of myself, even though I know intellectually that there's nothing to be embarrased or ashamed about. Your question has inspired me to go and get it checked out though, so THANK YOU!

Answer 2

Honey, her hormones are probably still trying to return to their normal state. Is she breast feeding? That can really do a number on sex drive for a woman. It also makes a woman dry as a bone, if you know what I mean.

Seven months is kind of a while to still have a low sex drive though. Have her confide in her doctor. She may be able to use a hormonal cream to boost her estrogen, giving her a stronger labido.

Answer 3

She probably needs some rest and is probably still healing from the after effects of child birth. But sometimes low sex drive can be due to medical conditions... if this persists, she should get this checked. Else, if she is just not in the mood, why not you try to spice things up a bit? Plan a relaxing get-away... prepare the appropriate props (candles, roses, soothing music)... anything to get her relaxed and in the mood.

Answer 4

She could be tired....a baby is a lot of work! She could also be experiencing post partum depression, too. She may need to speak with her doctor about it if she thinks it could be that. How much do you help her with the baby? Maybe she needs a break once in awhile or some help.