My hubby and I are having a debate on this subject. I say that you might "love" the person that you are with, but you are not "in love" with them if you are cheating on them. He seems to think that you can be "in love" with someone and still cheat on them. What do you all think?
2007-09-02 14:22:38 · 14 answers · asked by redpeach_mi 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you really love someone then the thought of cheating would never enter your mind.
2007-09-02 16:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
when there's a clear understanding between two people there shouldn't be any cheating, 100%! love is love and it's there, yes. BUT there are a lot of factors that could affect cheating. it's not only because the person is 'out of love'. it could be revenge, psychological problem, name it.... unfortunately we don't get to know all these things until after we live with the person (most of the time). however, where there's true love both partners should be willing to fix that problem. very painful in the process but some couples are able to stick to each other and fix it for a happy union.
2007-09-02 20:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by Desiree 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can be in "Love" and cheat on that person. Cheating can be an act of impulse, which would override a long standing love. It's like eating sweets if you are on a diet. Chances are you might feel bad after cheating, but you still LOVE the person you cheated on. That's why people buy flowers, jewelry, anything to try and make it up to the other.
2007-09-02 15:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by K M 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is about need, not love it's selfish, destructive, hurtful and mean.
I really can say now I can never just go back and have sex again when I had love now, it's a whole different side of the game and in the end cheating serves it's own purpose not help anything regardless of what anyone feels!
2007-09-02 14:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you on this. When you are "in love" with a person, you don't think about cheating. But when you fall out of love with a person in doesn't mean you don't love them it's just that you aren't "in love". I know several people that say they are not in love with their spouse anymore but they still love them and care about them. I think the reason people cheat on their spouse is because they fell out of love.
2007-09-02 15:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by crazyncgirl2003 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I don't think you could cheat if you're "in love" with your partner.
The thought of another man even touching me makes me sick. I only want my partner and no one else will do.
I was married for 12 years and never cheated. In the last year I was with him I will admit I had interest in other men, but clearly I was not in love with my husband anymore and I left.
Up until then the thought never crossed my mind. When I started thinking of others I knew our marriage was over and that I needed to face that painful fact.
2007-09-02 14:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Black Kitten 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you can love someone and cheat on them if thats the case then you will try everything in your power to fix it before the cheating starts.You may love that person but your not in love with them okay
2007-09-02 14:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you "love" someone is it like you enjoyed being with them yet your eyes still wonder.. and go out there and do thing to hurt them- cheating
When you're "in love" with that someone, they are the only person your eyes look at and just the though of them being upset hurt you.
Now day many ppl mistaken for love as "IN LOve" with someone.
Love refer to family love, animals love, baby love etc,... but to be IN LOVE is "real love" i'm talking about, is perhaps very rare and sometime ppl think it never exist anymore.
2007-09-02 14:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by MeOwwW.. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To truly say you are in love with someone is to say you love them as yourself and would you ever do something on purpose to hurt yourself, I think not, so to cheat on someone is saying i don't respect you as myself and i don't love you as much as i love myself so i choose to do something that may in the end cause great harm to one or more people. that's not real love .
2007-09-02 18:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If he does it all the time, its not love. But if you are in love and some how the circumstances get you to sleep with somebody else, it doesn't mean there is no love.
2007-09-02 15:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋