when this gay guy asked me out i just became incredibly angry and almost punched him, idk why i was so angry, i have a gay friend and i asked him and he didn't know why i was so angry either, why was i so angry?
2007-09-02 14:08:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Probably because you felt embarrassed? You're not gay and a gay guy asked you out, and then you fear that people may think you're gay; when you're not. Maybe that's why you were angry.
2007-09-02 16:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Soa's Fate~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you decided to be angry. Honestly, I think you reacted the wrong way. I'm gay, and I don't care who asks me out. If it's a girl, I'll politely decline. So what... what's wrong with a girl that shows interest in me? If you are angry, you definitely have some type of internal homophobia, since that's how I would say the "stereotypical homophobe" would react, or at least some insecurity.
2007-09-02 21:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can't be that angry because you found your way to the Gay section in Yahoo, I mean you don't just stumble across this site by accident. Why don't you ask yourself why you were so angry, to me it just shows you are certainly not in touch with your feelings and your emotions. Would you go to punch up a pretty young girl if she told you she was a lesbian and went to kiss you on the lips??
2007-09-02 22:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Paul D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweety...
You just got a little flustered,..
a curt no thanks would suffice, but I think on a different emotional level ..you may have questioned, why the heck would he ask me out, does he think I am gay, do I look gay, do I act gay, maybe all these insecurities came forward...
Gay guys are so picky, you must be pretty cool to be considered.. dont be offended...
Kisses
Kristina
2007-09-02 21:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_shemale_tempe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cannot answer that. But you need to learn to control your anger. You need to learn to say, "No thanks, I'm not gay," take it as a compliment and let it go. Just so you know, if a gay guy finds you attractive, it does not necessarily mean he thinks you're gay. It means he thinks you're attractive, friendly, someone he wants to know.
I'm gay. I've had women come onto me. Do I become incredibly angry and want to punch them? No. I say, "No thanks," and take it as a compliment. I have no interest in them as dates or sexual relationships, but I appreciate the fact that they find me interesting or attractive. It's a compliment, no matter whom it comes from.
When you really need to worry, bud, is when people stop asking you out.
2007-09-02 21:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
To try knowing why, ask yourself some other questions.
DID you think he thought you were gay?
Was he creepy, a nerd, more attractive than you, or what?
Were you sober?
Have you been getting any?
Did you imagine having sex w/ him before you got angry? Did you have any other images?
Do you consider yourself attractive to females?
Best of luck, man. Knowing your reaction was unacceptable to you is the first step to figuring it out.
2007-09-02 21:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I always worry when I see the statement 'I'm not....but'!
I suppose you felt threatened by being asked out by a gay man who found you sexually attractive - your tolerance reached its limit.
Mind you, if you keep hitting people who ask you out, the queue is going to get very short, very fast. I'd be working on your anger - and your sense of your own sexual identity. It's possibly not as secure as you thought.
2007-09-02 21:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by chris m 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he infringed on the straight man's masculinity. If a gay guy asks you out and you aren't into it, just say NO. There's no need for anger.
2007-09-02 21:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by flash 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because he thought you were gay "looking" and you didnt want that. IM sorry if your offended but in the least you should feel a little flattered that your attaractive both ways...^_^
2007-09-02 22:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly.. if a guy had the courage to go up to you and express himself.. you [even if you were straight] shouldve thought the reaction to yourself and then told them polietly.
i think the reason you reacted that way was because you were embarassed that a guy thought you might be gay.. its no big deal
2007-09-02 23:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋