The baby was born but was only 6 months along and I don't believe the family is religious. What do you say in this situation to the family??????
2007-09-02 14:06:12 · 11 answers · asked by magpie 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
this baby was 26 weeks and lived about 11 days but they had a funeral and the couple is very close so they are trying to support each other
2007-09-09 08:48:47 · update #1
this was their first and only child
2007-09-09 08:49:57 · update #2
Just tell your friend you are sorry. I have a preemie and I found a website that is WONDERFUL!!! www.shareyourstory.com All the parents on her have had preemie, lost babies, or have a child with some sort of birth defect. She will find women here who know exactly what she is going through and will help her more than you know. They have been through this and can offer great advice!!
2007-09-02 15:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's an extremely sad and sensitive situation. Good on you for wanting to support them. Offer your deepest sympathy verbally.
Acknowlege their loss and disappointment as they greive the precious life they were expecting. Send a card and some flowers. In Australia we have an organisation called SANDS( Still born and Antenatal Death Support). Let the couple talk if they want to. Offer to mind the other children if there are siblings while the funeral arrangements are made. Encourage them to keep special keepsakes of the baby or make a special album.
2007-09-06 23:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T say oh, well you can always have another.
DO say I'm so sorry this happened to you.
DON"T say she lost the baby (that infers that it's her fault).
DO say The baby died. We don't know why.
Treat it like any other death. Bring food, flowers, visit often, but keep it short unless Mom seems to really want to talk. Bring a favorite movie or better yet, her favorite sit com. Sit and watch it with her if she'll let you. Time will not help in this situation, but it will allow her time to adjust to the tragedy of the situation.
TX Mom - been there
Not an expert
2007-09-09 14:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say you're sorry for their loss and be there for them as much as you can but I cannot promise you that this will lessen their grief.
I almost lost my baby on my 6th month of pregnancy and although I was advised to keep as calm as possible I was actualy losing my mind. It is indeed the worst thing that can happen to a mom! Maybe a change of scenery can benefit them, advise them to go somewhere exotic where they've never been before, it may take their minds of their trouble to some extent.
2007-09-03 19:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by rinah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are very sorry for their loss and listen if they want to talk.
Never say that you know how they feel, because unless it has happened to you, you don't know.
My sister lost her baby at 20 weeks (I was 24 weeks pregnant at the time) and I simply cried with her, especially since I felt a loss too. I lost my pregnancy partner as well as a niece or nephew.
2007-09-02 22:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by haleigh's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i jsut told my friend that i would always be there for her. my friend lost a baby who was born at 23 weeks and 6 days. her baby lived for 2 weeks. i feel like i ahd a speacial bond with the baby because wwhile my friend went into the hopital iw as visiting her for a couple days and then one day my water broke and i was 36 weeks pregnant and my son was born the day after her daughter was-it was sad
2007-09-02 21:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you are sorry, say you love them. Be there to do the little things they don't want to think about right now, like laundry or grocery shop. Let them pour out their heart to you, and just listen and hold them close. The only thing that will heal their pain is time. Even if they were not religious, God will give them comfort.
2007-09-02 21:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a gift from God but sometimes God's ways are beyond our comprehension and understanding. Everything that happens has a reason. I believe God has a special purpose for this. Religious or not - maybe this is God's way of telling them that HE exist and that they need HIS love, guidance, strength and love.
2007-09-02 21:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by addicted too 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't say anything,talk about something else and let them bring it up.Thats how I am because if I lose someone I would never stop crying because people keep mentioning it and they always say they are sorry for your loss,ect.Take them some food or a cake or something and tell them you just stopped by to see how they were doing.
(Many blessings)
2007-09-07 00:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by margaret moon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would just let them know that you are there for them. Offer a ear or anything else you can offer, the point is to just be there for them.
2007-09-08 22:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by thecoxons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋