2007-09-02 12:33:11 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The main causes in 2004 (2003 numbers in parentheses) were:
* Extramarital affairs - 27% (29%)
* Family strains - 18% (11%)
* Emotional/physical abuse - 17% (10%)
* Mid-life crisis - 13% (not in 2003 survey)
* Addictions, e.g. alcoholism and gambling - 6% (5%)
* Workaholism - 6% (5%)
btw, i'm a sociology student doing a survey on marriage & sex. i would love your input. http://geocities.com/sbiv37/
2007-09-02 12:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number one cause is addiction. This includes drugs, alcohol, gambling, and porn/sex addictions.
The second cause (way down the ladder) is adultery. (sex addiction is not included in this).
Inlaws is number 5.
Money isn't in the top 5 because it is usually not what is being fought about. And no, I can't remember 3 and 4, darn it. I also can't find the link! Divorce isn't necessarily a bad thing. If you were living with a drunk, you were stuck. Now you can dump the drunk and move on with your life.
I also would add that Mental illness is also in the top 10. Depression and bipolar are pretty common and can put terrible strain on a marriage. Not to mention the folks whose personality changes after a head injury or stroke or medications.
2007-09-02 12:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think couples forget how to communicate. They can't express their true feelings, & therefor they grow apart. Fights start, they start to get involved w/others instead of trying to work things out in their own home. Alcohol is also a big contributor to relationships. There are way too many things that ONE thing, alcohol, can cause that can even be listed! Money or lack of cause problems. Trusting & honesty w/one another. Couples who recognize they have problems arizing should be able to talk to one another about it. Be honest w/one another & if they want to save their marriages, they w/work TOGETHER to do whatever necessary to "heal" or "mend" the situations. Sadly enuf, there are way toooo many "number
ones" that cause divorce in America or anywhere for that matter.
2007-09-02 12:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get 100 different probable causes here and all are a part of what the number one cause is, but the real/actual/factual cause of divorce is LACK OF COMMUNICATION.
If the couple would discuss finances, they could work thru them. If the couple would discuss marital problems, they could work thru them and there would b no cheating. If the couple could discuss family issues/inlaw issues, they could work thru them together and find a happy medium.
If the couple would discuss their past and past crushes, they could work together thru the difficult times of ex bf's/gf's. If the couple would have enough faith in their partner, they could discuss a previous miscarriage/rape/abortion and work thru it together.
I'm not saying it would stop all problems, but it sure would go a long, long way in repairing them.
Its almost like when the rings go on, the mouths shut. Neither partner has the ability to read the others mind, so why is it we all expect our partner to know what our troubles are when we never told them, or to know what their troubles are when they won't talk?
Thats the real number one cause of divorce. communication.
2007-09-02 12:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage
2007-09-02 15:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by br_wy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if it's the 'number one cause" but i think most couples separate because there's this "fairy tale" mentality when it comes to marriage...people tend to forget that marriage isn't about the wedding and it's not "happily ever after" - it's hard work...so people just give up...divorces are easier to get these days compared to back in the day...when couples were having problems, they were forced to work it out...now, people just don't care and they get divorces like they get liquor at a store...no big deal...it's unfortunate though, esp. when kids are involved...
2007-09-02 12:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many causes of divorce, some say a # 1 cause is money, but from experience it is a combination of money, lack of communication, stress from work, and always caring about yourself before you care about your spouse.
2007-09-02 12:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by experienced by life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez, I'd love to know. My husband just asked me for a divorce after almost 10 1/2 years. He won't actually tell me why he's so unhappy, except for the fact that he doesn't want to talk to me and he doesn't want to be around me.
2007-09-02 13:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Like being a DINK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money,communication,cheating.
2007-09-02 12:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lawyers they made it too easy to get a divorce as soon as a little hard times come around its lets get divorced also no one reallly knows what LOVE is anymore
2007-09-02 12:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by raiderskip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋