Does any one have a story of a marriage separation that brought you back to each other?

Question

My husband and I will be separating in 3-4 months, right after I give birth to our son. We have been together for 10 years, married 1. I believe he has cheated on me and he even says he wants some freedom. I will move 3 hours away and we are going to see what happens. We're currently attending counseling but still think we need to separate to figure out what we each really want. Any success stories of separation out there?

Answer 1

I know one. They likely would have only been separated for a few months if not for the interference of supposed 'friends' including my sister's ex-husband. The divorce was put off for several years and eventually they did get back together. They'd been married 25 years, but you know, if you are always at work, eventually the spouse at home is going to stray. He sold his business and got a regular paying job and they are still together and it's been, about 5 years now.

Just because someone cheats doesn't mean they want out of the marriage. But the marriage does need work. And of course, forgiveness.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Yeah I've seen all those arguments before; nice cut-and-paste job, you probably got all those from a homosexual-friendly website. Those are actually twisting the message around to claim the opposite of what they really say. Many places God says marriage is between a man and a woman. In fact Jesus even reiterated it: Matthew 19:4-5 – 4"Haven't you read," He replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? Show me anywhere in the bible where God says two of the same sex should be united together.

Answer 4

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It is a typical enough story: one partner leaves, the other stays. One remains 'in love', the other is uncertain. Whatever it is that has caused a couple to be apart, the one person who remains bears the prospect, fear, doubt, desire, hope of saving his or her marriage' alone.

Answer 5

i haven't tried this, but when we attended pre-marital counseling, the pastor told us that separation is really just a trial for divorce. basically, it just allows the couple to establish a routine and slowly learn to function without the help or support of the other spouse. he said that he has rarely seen this help a marriage. essentially, you will be practicing being a single mom and doing whatever you want whenever you want. your husband will be practicing what it will be like to rarely see his child. this will only make it any easier transition into a divorce and true separation.

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Answer 6

You will both be cheating on one another within days of separation. Don't do it unless you want horror stories to share when you get back together.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

You thinking he has already cheated on you, and him wanting his "freedom", doesn't sound very good on his side. And, with you moving three hours away there is a lot of distance, too.

I wish you all the best for success, it's praying time!

Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

I have told this story so many times i'm surprised that everyone doesn't know it by heart.One more time maybe it will make you feel better.It all started with hang up phone calls and my husband having more meetings then usual then telling me not to wait up because he was going to have a couple of drinks with the guys from work. After 18 years of marriage why wouldn't i believe him but it got to the point where it was every night he started doing this. One saturday afternoon i ask him what was going on nothing he said so i kept at him until he said he had been thinking for some time now about moving out because he didn't want our marriage to get any worse then it was. 6 months later he move out 1/2 mile away from our home if that. About 3 months after he moved out we started going out it was fun sometime i would spend the night with him and he with me. To make a very long story short 2 1/2 years later he moved back in and the very next day was when i found a card from another woman mixed in with his clothes, the card said I can't wait until we can walk down the street holding hands in front of everyone etc,etc, that's when i really started looking and i found a pair of thongs a CD of nothing but love songs, that's when i knew the other woman had planted those things for me to found. My husband listening to love songs was like me listening to country music it wasn't happening. When my husband walked in the room he knew something was wrong, to think this man hid this from me for over 3 years.I was happy for 1 whole day.That was 10 years ago i read that letter and I wish to god i never had but sense i did i have been dealing with this for all these years. I love my husband and he has treated me like a man who is deeply in love with his wife.That other female was a co-worker he had been working with and was going to happy hour with and she knew me and had been in my home.You can call this story a happy ending if you like i guess it all depends how you look at it. I met my husband when he just turned 19 and i was 25 this all happened when he was 37 so i try to look at it from another point of view. He was very young and hadn't had time to really have fun because it was taken away from him at a very young age. All i know is my husband made a horrible mistake and to leave him for that would be a big mistake on my part. The 3 months we were separated i cried every day and i knew we belonged together and soon he would feel that way to and he did. He would of come home sooner but she wasn't letting go that easy she threatened to call me if he stopped seeing her,one thing he did not want to do was for me to get hurt or for me to find out about him and her because he knew how devastated i would be and he didn't want anything to hurt his changes of coming home. I realize a lot of women would have told him to leave but being married for 18 years wasn't something you could just say good-by to at least not for me. i just couldn't imagine life without him.He has more then tried to make up for his mistake it's me that can't let go of all the lies. I will never forgive him because in my eyes forgiveness just means it's ok what you did just don't let it happen again. He knows how i feel about his actions and i will never forgive him.

Answer 10

If he wants freedom, there is little chance for this to work. He has to want it. Prepare yourself.