Yes, I am tall and thin, but every office job I have had it has been very diffcult for me to make friends with anyone because I feel like other women discriminate against me because of my height and weight, whether it's how rude they talk to me or the nasty looks they give me. I think I have a great personality and sense of humor. I have dealt with this since I started my first office job at 21. And yes, I have lost jobs due to this. I just wonder why people can't see past me being tall and thin, and see the other great things about me.
2007-09-02 11:58:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I would think its nothing to do with you been thin & tall... The only way you can lose a job.... Is not doing your JOB... @
2007-09-02 12:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Beth Ann, there's no other way to say this, so I'm just going to say it: you are at work to work. You're not there to make it a meet-and-greet club.
IF you should happen to click with any coworkers as time goes along, great. However, the officeplace is not a social setting. It's a business setting, and you're there to do business.
The telling part of your question is when you mentioned that you've actually lost jobs over thinking that the other folks in the office are mean to you because of the way you look. That says a lot. It mostly says that you've let your self image get in the way of being able to even out your career path, and you're starting to set a pattern that will dog you for the rest of your life if you don't get a handle on it now.
Forget the other people in the office. If they want to leave you out, fine. You can create your own social circle outside the workplace. But being discriminated against? Pffft. I think not. You're a little full of yourself if you think that the business world has the time to stop what it's doing just to be mean to you.
Buck up, bucko.
There's a poem that's really appropriate to your circumstance. Learn it, take it to heart, and remember, I'm being straight up, not mean. Good luck.
'He drew a circle to shut me out.
'Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.
'But love and I had the wit to win:
'We drew a circle that took him in.'
2007-09-02 19:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Stuart 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Hmmm could be they are jealous. But then it could be that you project an air that you are not reachable. If you think they are being rude then you will perceive them as such no matter what is said because you have already decided in your mind that because you are tall and thin that they dislike you. It could also be that if you distance yourself from the rest of the office crew you are perceived as being cold and unfriendly. Lighten up and try communication with the others in a casual way. Just be yourself. You seem nice here and have no trouble communicating.
2007-09-02 19:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by cowboy_christian_fellowship 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about what's happened to you. But you can't blame everything on your looks. Have you tried to be nice and approachable to others? I was in a work situation where I just plain felt disliked, and this girl came into my life out of nowhere, in a higher department. She asked me if I would be her friend because she felt no one liked her. She happened to have movie star good looks, but when I got to know her I thought her really nice and kind and special. Sure, there might be some women who resent your thinness, but I think if you try you can find a friend. It is kind of weird that I've made friends at some places and felt totally ignored at others. I think the best you can do is not to be so into your looks. Try to act like an average person and be friendly, and if people don't respond to that, there's something wrong with them and not you.
2007-09-02 19:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kate J 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's terrible of them. I feel for you. However, if you lost jobs just because of your appearance, why didn't you complain to a higher authority? Just wondering. At any rate, you'll just have to grow a thick skin. There are people of all shapes sizes and colors who are discriminated against cruelly and unfairly :(. However if you are verbally harassed I urge that you speak to a boss or someone with authority.
As for befriending the women, the best route is, instead of trying to strike up conversations at lunch, to individually make small talk and ease into it. This way it won't seem forced. When they see how great you are, anyone worth getting to know will stand up for you and make things that much easier.
2007-09-02 19:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try a different attitude about your stature. Please I am not being critical -try thinking in a whole new way about yourself.
What you really believe can have an outward affect on others and on how you act.
It is against the law to fire someone due to their height or lack thereof.
Could your attitude have affected your work and/or working relationships ?
When you have finished calling me all the names I probably deserve, calm down and take a good long honest look at the way you are thinking. Love , Bemo.
2007-09-02 19:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Bemo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you ask stupid questions like this. How can you actually sit and think that these people are discriminating against you because of yours looks? You seem extremely shallow and arrogant and I'm sure in real life it shows. You should slap yourself for even questioning why they do not like you -- you talk about yourself as if you're the 8th wonder of the freaking world so do you even have to question? How about coming down a notch to the real world where people could care less about how tall and thin you are and only care about how extremely ugly your attitude probably is. Believe me you are not that special.
2007-09-02 19:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by cuppycake♀ 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I know how you feel. Im short, petite, and have curves in the right place and women are constantly looking at me weird or telling how small I am, or that I need to eat. I hate it. Just because i am small doesnt mean i starve myself. Believe me I eat. Im wondering if the women in your office are alot older than you? Older women usually act that when someone new comes in and looks great all the time. Its like someone stepped onto their territory, so acting 5 and gossippin is the best way to handle it to them. You have a modelesque figure and most women who dont have a personal issue within themselves, so they take it out on you. It sucks but it happens. Women are naturally competitive. Dont pay attention to them at all, especially if you love your job!! Your working to make money and pay bills, your not their to be best friends forever!! Dont let them stress you out, it should be a compliment to you;)
2007-09-02 19:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's either jealousy or intimidation, or maybe it's something else you do? As long as you don't act like you're all that, and walk around with an attitude I don't see why people are being rude or ignoring you. Just look at it this way, their loss, I'm sure eventually you'll make some friends.
2007-09-02 19:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The reason no one likes you is because you are hung up on being tall and thin. Get over yourself and maybe you will make some friends. I know plenty of tall thin girls that everyone likes and plenty that no one likes, but it's the personality that makes the difference.
2007-09-02 19:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by nameless 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋