It should be up to your husband, baby day is SUCH a huge day for you both.
Before you make any decisions, you should be leaving it up to your husband to make some decisions of his own, it's his baby too and you are his wife. The day shouldn't be all about what's best for you, it should be all about what's best for you both and what will make you both feel comfortable. You are going to need you husband, but rest assured that he will be needing you too. He will be needing to feel wanted and needed by you and i'm not sure how that can be possible when the delivery room is full of others that want a piece of the action as well.
My advice is take your husband and only your husband, make him feel wanted the way he should and i have no doubt that he will be making you the centre of his love and affection a thousand times more than usual.
Ask him!
2007-09-02 14:37:20
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answered by Shazela 3
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Well, I don't have children yet, but my plan is to only have my husband there. I hate when people have half their family with them. I do want to give birth naturally, so I am considering a birthing center rather than a hospital. I think a doula is a good idea.... I'd put out the money for it!
You can have or not have whoever you want with you! Don't feel bad either... they didn't create the baby. It's your decision!
2007-09-02 19:18:52
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answered by bookworm 4
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definitely your husband but it you let your sister and or mother in make sure they know that if they annoy you or are mean that they have to leave
and you can get them kicked out to the room by just asking the nurses
its your delivery have it your way
a Douala would be a good idea if you feel that you need one
they have good ideas on helping with labor and they can be the go between person if you don't want something done or if you don't want someone in the room.
just make sure you set it up before hand and that they know what your birth plan and wants are
2007-09-02 19:09:58
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answered by bee 3
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You have whoever you feel comfortable having in there.I've chosen NOT to have my mom in there and I told her and she seems to be ok with it.My mom and I are close, but I don't want too many people in there and I've already chosen 3.My mom likes to make sarcastic comments and is just weird sometimes so I really don't think its to my benifit.My boyfriend of course will be there.My best friend has had 2 kids already and I stayed with her through her last one.....14 hours so she can be here for me.Then I am choosing one of my cousins that I am SUPER close with who has had 3 kids herself and works for an obgyn.She is very smart and knows how to make people feel better.You don't have to explain it to anyone.Just have whoever you want or you will regret it.Just tell her that you dont want that many people in the room or that the doctor said you could only have 1 or 2.
2007-09-02 18:56:19
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answered by jessmarie 1
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I think its something that should be shared with a woman and her husband only. They are the ones that made it happen. Its hard because there are so many other special people but if they are really really wanting to be there or see it, and if the woman is comfortable with it, the birth could be recorded.
Also, if there is no husband, i would pick the person closest to you.
2007-09-02 18:53:08
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answered by Anonymous
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Having a baby in my opinion is a personal thing, and If a husband (wants) operative word ),to be there, I would consider that okay, but the rest of the folks can see the baby after all is said a done, I'm surprized the doctors haven't thrown them all out .
2007-09-02 18:59:26
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answered by fuzzykitty 6
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Like everyone's saying have only the people who will comfort you and help you try and stay relaxed.
If you think it may cause sore feelings or arguments for you to be the one saying "No" explain the situation to the nurse or doctor ahead of time. They will have no problem telling them and they can make it a "hospital" rule of only one family member in the room if necessary.
2007-09-02 21:44:44
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answered by emily 5
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Whoever you want! I had a doula and would (will) never give birth without one. Worth every penny and then some! For my first birth I had my mom, MIL, doula, and husband. For my second it was my mom, doula, and husband. I'm pregnant now and it'll just be my doula and husband.
2007-09-02 18:48:46
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answered by Jen F 4
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I would only let the father be in there thats a special time for you and him. The both of you are the ones who made the baby. If there was a way to chnage back time when i had my kids the father would have been there but I had a C-section and was put to sleep.
2007-09-02 18:52:12
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answered by sleepyhead 2
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Your Husband only this is yalls creation and yalls special moment everyone else can come in right after the baby is born. I was 16 when my first was born so of course my mom and bf where in the room but with our second it was me and him.This is your day and its the one time you can demand how you want things.
2007-09-02 20:16:03
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answered by crystalzabia 1
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