I'm having a difficult time figuring this out for myself.
1. husband :)
2.
3.
My sister wants to be there, but I never see her (and she lives 5 minutes away). She is always with her boyfriend who doesn't want to be around us. She does not always pick up her phone (because she is with him.... etc. etc.) I feel like I cannot count on her.
A doula? Expensive ... but possibly.
My mom? My mom can be very mean, and I don't want her to be rude to the doctor and/or nurses. She is usually mean to everyone ... and at that time, I don't think I could handle it.
Any advice?
2007-09-02 11:44:11 · 11 answers · asked by Happy Girl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
for my first baby, my husband, mother, sister, and father were all in the room with me. which was nice... but this time I've decided it will only be me and my husband. (it was more of my husband's decision, actually) i think it will be sweet.
2007-09-02 11:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Emily H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. husband
2. self
3. baby
thats how we did it at least and believe me it was soooo nice not having to think about who wanted what answered and having to be social....trust me it is yucky enough having to have all the doctors and nurses around, kinda nice only having your husband there to share things with. If there is anyone you feel really supported by other than your DH you should go ahead and invite them but dont hesitate to keep to the basics. I know my DH felt really out of the loop with all the doctors crowding around, talk to yours and make sure he would be comfortable with having yet another person there to get involved:P Of course the two of you will have to decide together but honestly when youre in labor you probably wont be paying a lick of attention to who else is there besides your DH and the baby. I found that even after delivery, the next day in the recovery room I still just wanted ppl to go away so I could be with my husband and my baby. It was actually pretty unpleasant having anyone around. (btw my baby was only like 5 lbs, he was preemie so I didnt have an unusually big baby to deliver or anything like that.) If you decide not to have anyone else there at least nobody will be offended when they arent allowed to be there:P If you invite one person you risk making everyone else jealous (why did she ask them and not me??.) So much easier to just tell everyone "sorry guys but we want to have it be just us when the baby is born, you can come and visit the very next day" Nobody we told that to was hurt by it and they were just as happy to come to the recovery room later. My mom even told me she was relived I didnt want her there because it would have been awful seeing me hurting that much. When our next baby is born in february it will be just me my sweetie and the docs again and I wouldnt have it any other way:) Best wishes and Congratulations:D
2007-09-02 15:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
except you intend to sign up you son in a siblings at delivery classification, do not carry him. i don't think of he will understand what is going on, and why mommy is in soreness. additionally, while you're in exertions for an prolonged time what is going to take place if he gets hungry or drained. A well-being midsection pull out sofa isn't delicate for everybody, enable alongside a small infant. i could leave you son along with your MIL. quite, she does not could desire to be there by using fact she replaced into there on your son's delivery. that is greater significant on your husband to be there. As somebody who had my husband, mom, and MIL in the room for my first, it replaced into greater calm with my husband and that i the 2d time around.
2016-10-17 12:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband, my mom, and possibly my mother in law (cause she was at the birth of my first baby so why replace a memeber of the team for no reason?)
she might want to stay with my other children, so then just my mom and my husband. two is enough
my mom is mean to people sometimes too, but i found at my first delivery she defered to me, because i was in a much more agressive frame of mind then her LOL
2007-09-02 11:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kitterkat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just your husband is fine.After all it,s a private moment and the birth will be seen by whoever else is with you.A close girlfriend grandparent,aunt,or your sister is okay.Keep Mom out of it and your sister,s boyfriend should be left out too.
2007-09-02 11:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by warriorbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you could always just have you and your husband that would actually be pretty cool in my opinion. That way he gets a chance to really be there and your sis which your kinda iffy on and your mean mom don't kill his experience.
2007-09-02 11:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by BrandyJo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had only my mom during my first delivery, my mom and stepmom and husband (now ex) during my second and my current husband, and my mom during my third. If I have any more children, I was alot of people with me considering it will be my last.
2007-09-02 12:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my boyfriend (of course) my mom and my younger sister during delivery..during labor it was all of the above and my aunt Patsy and visitors.
2007-09-02 11:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Adrian & Jaslene's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whomever you feel comfortable with. definitely don't feel pressured to have people in there who you don't want because that can cause extra tension and stress for you and could slow down labor. if you are only comfortable with your husband then just have him.
2007-09-02 12:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm just having my Fiancee. everyone else can be in there before and after but during is just our time.
2007-09-02 11:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by Supermommy!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋