im fifteen and my boyfriend wants to have a baby,what should i do?

Question

i just turned 15 like 2 days ago and my 17 year old boyfriend that i have been with for 1 year & 4 monthz is already talking to me about having a baby,
i mean dont get me wrong
babiez r cute but i think im 2 young
he keepz tellin me everyday n idunno im just really confused on what i should o..I NEED HELPP!!

Answer 1

I think that is a really bad idea. You are only fifteen. School is the most important thing right now. I understand that he may be as hot as Brad Pitt but think about what you could be doing to your life. If you do have a baby you would have to drop out of school. How would you support the baby ?
If your boyfriend keeps pushing you like this just tell him your not ready. If he doesn't understand or if he gets mad that would be time for you to break up with him.
I would hold off on sex for a while at least untill you are 20 years old and then you would able to support you and the baby and you would know what you are going to do with your life.
Good luck. Hope this is helpful.

Answer 2

Lets see... Do you have a job? Did you finish high school? Do you have a car? Do you have a place to stay? Do you have health insurance? I'm going to go out on a limb and say no. So you shouldn't have a baby...I'm also guess that even though your bf is 17 he doesn't have to much of this stuff either. That means taking care of a baby will be really hard. If you really love this guy tell him you aren't ready. If he loves you then he will respect that. As for if you stay with him that is your choice. I'd get on the pill or something that he doesn't know about. Girls aren't the only slick ones and he could put a hole in his own condom, or not pull or out or something. Take your time and make sure YOU grow up before you try to raise a kid

Answer 3

What a crazy and irresponsible idea and coming from a 17 year old boy who probably needs a lot of learning to grow up himself and learn what parenthood means. A baby has been described as a bundle of joy but if the adults are not prepared for it, it can be a bundle of disasters. You did not say if your boy is working and whether he can financially support a family. That is another aspect to consider. Moreover you are simply too young to know how to handle a family. If you now cannot handle your bnoyfriend of 17 with his crazy idea, how can you handle him plus a young baby. You will be looking for more heartaches than you can handle. Happy relationship can fall to bits if the financial aspects are not in order. There is no such thing as free love - love can be wonderful but it does not grow and mature and endure by itself. Tell yourself and then tell your boyfriend that he is simply too childish about the whole matter. I often wonder why young people come up with such crazy ideas. Focus on your careers first. Sorry for being for up front but it is necessary lest you go down the wrong path and ruin you otherwise happy teenage life where the world is still there to be discovered. Use your common sense for once.

Answer 4

listen, im 16 and i know im too young to feed, love, clothe, pay for a baby. i love babies but think about it. we have so much we can do with our lives and getting pregnant would destroy every chance u have. it would be unfair to u and the baby. think about ur fuiture kids. how would u feel having a mother who chose to have u at 15 and cuz she was so young u have vrey little chance at college or a good career. then u would be stuck having a 3 year old stuck to ur hip when u graduate, that is if u do graduate after having to get a full time job to pay hospital bills and new clothes for the baby every 5 months and food for the baby. that baby would have to come first. u couldnt go to prom cuz ud b stuck babysitting and ther are alot of girls in my grade wh have had kids and the boyfriend wanted to keep it then ends up laying everythign on u to take care of the baby. whiel he went out and partied and probly got a cupl other girls knocked up.

if he is presuring u to have a baby then he is no good for u. i dont care how old u r unless u have a good job, a home and an education u should not have kids.

i hope u make a good choice. plz think about it b4 u chose to sleep with him. and if u chose to sleep with him then make damn sure u wear protection because u can not rely on the man to do it! if u need 2 talk u can email me at kita3591@yahoo

Answer 5

Greetings! A baby is incredibly cute, true, but it is also an absolute lifechanging event. Any ideas about going out you can forget about. A baby needs 24 hour care, 7 days a week and nurturing from the time he or she is born until they are standing over you in your hospital bed when it comes your time to leave this world 70 to 80 years from now.

Your education will be cut short in order to make sure all the needs of your infant will be met. Then they enter preschool at about the time you graduate high school..that is IF you graduate from High school. Making money to support your child will become priority number one and that has been known to end many a woman's high school exprience.

Having a baby as a teenager is the fastest way I can think of to complete poverty.

It is crucial to be able to find what direction you will be going before you have children. I would hope that involves finishing high school, then find a vocation where you will feel proud of and also pay you enough to be able to take care of your family.

It will be very difficult, if not impossible to be able to answer those questions at fifteen.

Your seventeen year old boyfriend needs to have those answers at hand also. If he cannot provide those answers,as well as making a lifetime commitment to both you and the baby, then that should also be a huge red flag warning.

Just remember that in all likelihood, it will be YOU that cares for the baby 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Unless your boyfriend truly commits to you and the baby (and for seventeen year old boys, that's EXTREMELY unlikely), you will have to feed, clothe, change, put in and pay for childcare...the list goes on and on.

I cannot suggest strongly enough to finish high school and have some idea of where you are going to go in life BEFORE you have a baby.

If that isn't enough, then you should consult your parents and his parents about this idea. Some people think that would be a very difficult thing to do, and they are no doubt right. But look at it this way...if you have a baby now, they will know very quickly. Wouldn't you rather their input (albeit very angry) and prevent a disaster or have them find out long after it's too late to do anything about it?

Either way, they will know. That should be enough to tell you that you both are too young to have a family.

I hope that helps you. Please think about this VERY CAREFULLY. Once you have a baby, unless you put it up for adoption, it is yours forever. Forever starting at teenage is way too long for most of us. Good luck.

Take care.

Answer 6

Even if he claims he loves you, It is still not a good senerio for you to be in.

You are right, when you say you are too young. Find a creative way to leave him.

Ask UR parents if UR family can move to another state. The more you are around this guy, the more chance you will have of getting pregnant & having his baby.

If this guy loved you, he'd wait until you are old enough to marry him. However, according to what you have told me of him, he has no intention of waiting.

There is plenty of time in UR life for boyfriends & if you have one again, you should hopefully be older & If the man truly loved you, he would marry you 1st & make an honest woman our of you.

I'm sure it is not your intention to get a bad name, however if you are having sex with this young teenage boy: then according to the websters dictionary: you have allowed yourself to become a whore, check out the meaning of it.

And yet what kind of bad name does this male person get? Whoremonger(?). How often do you hear of that termonology?

It is better to have a baby & give it up for adoption, then it is to kill the child within you. When a baby is formed in UR body, for the 1st moment of conception: that is a baby inside you, no-matter what anyone tells you.

Answer 7

Talk to him and absolutely refuse to yield to this subject.

If he keeps bugging you, dump him or seperate or talk to a supportive adult about it. The adult can help back you up cuz I don't think this issue is easy to talk to your parents about.

A baby is cute, but it is a human being who lives and breathes and eats and being a mother is way stressful and that's when you're 30 and married with the support of the family.

You have your whole life ahead to think about e.g. education, career, etc. A baby will not help to lessen the strain.

You are way too young. Forget what I said before. Tell the dude that he is an idiot to the highest degree and dump him like last month's shoes.

I'm fifteen, and I don't want a baby, or a boyfriend like that. You shouldn't either.

Answer 8

this situation actually, believe it or not, doesnt call for too much thinking

basically you have two options right? have the baby or dont.
take each side into consideration

You have the baby, ok, great. Who is going to pay for it? Has your boyfriend finished college? Does he have a good steady well paying job, to support a baby? (I'd say 50,000 a year or more at least). Do you really think he will stay around that long? Are you willing to care for this baby for the rest of your life and abdandon on your hopes and dreams?

The list goes on forever and I don't even see why you would even think about this whole mess at all unless your extremely stupid.

Don't have a baby. Idiot.

Answer 9

You should seriously tell him to f u c k off! 15 is about 10 years too young to be having kids and if he is so interested in having a baby he should really not try to hook up with someone so young.

Run away and run away fast.

Answer 10

if ur boyfriend likes u as much as u say just tell him how u feel and if his love is true then he will understand that u want to wait. let him know that u want to live ur dreams and actually have time to live the life u wanted before becoming committed. also let him know that if he cant understand this then obvisiously he isnt the right guy for u!
i hope this helps and everything goes well for the both of u.