just friend who could offer comfort... how?

Question

i hav a male friend that i havent seen for months but 2 wks ago i met him on the street and we had coffee together. my problem is that im still struggling to get over a past relationship and he on his (though he really wants to get his ex back) n i feel that we cud hang out together knowing where we stand and offer emotional support to each other. so im seeing him tomorrow and have this idea of staying overnight at his place. i think he will like to have me there. at the same time i also feel that i need to make it very clear to him that nothing sexual is to happen (would like to have hugs though). my questions:
1. how am i to tell him NO SEX consider that in the past he had said he would like to have sex with me as he doesnt think sex and love have to go together (he is still waiting for his ex). i know i sound selfish but i need a good company like him without spoiling it. 2. he said he wanted to play piano for me but im not into music, how can i show that i really do appreciate that

welL he invited me over for dinner but i said its best we eat out. i dont feel like staying home and be alone. could you tell me HOW i can tell him instead of asking me not to go? i was at his place a couple of times before till very late but nothing sexual had happened. just dinner and chats and music and language etc. so i thought this time could just be like that but i hate the feeling of having to leave alone at night.

Answer 1

wear a large Kotex , when listening to piano you can look at something other than him or the piano. you could even turn away from him and pick something look at . Try to have an expression of relaxation, that the music is carrying you away. When he stops take a second or two to react and ask what was the song he played.after you say that the way he played was very nice.

Answer 2

Move on, girl. Nothing to see here.

Unless you enjoy being a tool*.

The guy ain't over his ex, and has entirely different ideas about sex and love than you do. "Spend the night at his place" is just another way of saying SEX. If you want to spend the night with the guy without sex, go to a bar until closing, then find an all-night coffee shop and sit on the same side of the booth until dawn. You can cuddle and hug quite a bit, but if he tries to go further, the Waitress has a pot of hot coffee and she's not afraid to use it.
Then have breakfast and drive home in separate cars. (If he actually puts up with this, you may want to take the relationship a step further).

As for the piano, meet at a Mall for lunch and afterward, walk over to the local piano/organ store. Have him play for you there. If he's good, he'll draw a crowd. If he's not, he'll sing for you, which is romantic, too. If he just sings for himself, then look for someone better.

*BTW, I don't necessarily mean this in a bad way. Recreational sex can be fun for both partners. Just don't expect a relationship to grow out of it. When he's over his ex, THEN he's available.

Answer 3

You think he would want you over. Don't be too sure. You haven't seen him in months. People change over months, and he may not be so ready for you to stay overnight. Which brings me to my next topic. DON'T GO! Staying overnight is usually associated with intercourse. You said he wanted it before from you. If you have problems telling him no, then avoid the drama and leave a little early. If you think that everything will be fine about you going, follow your instinct. Have fun, and good luck!

Answer 4

I would just be very direct with him and tell him explicitly that you aren't interested in him that way, but feel that the two of you could use each other's company as friends

Answer 5

Do not go there to stay overnight and it will solve the whole problem.