You know what’s weird I had a cousin I loved him so much we all use to chill together in Mercy Hospital together on Miami volunteering and stuff. We were so cool I mean the best. We had each other’s back. My cousin got sick and was sent to the hospital. I ask my mom what’s going on she lied. All the grown ups lied.
You know what they said "Oh he fell and broke his leg he will be okay". Then I said we wanted to see him. Then my mom kept saying later not today. Then one day we were able to visit I found he's leg amputated I was so horrified and confused.
I think it was more of the confusion; it's like getting shot close range in the face and not realizing it until you hear the trigger go off. Trust me it don’t feel good. I was also naive my mom gave more lies his parents too. He died and I was so shocked and then I got angry. Really angry. He had cancer and no one told the group no one bothered to say hey by the way he has cancer.
2007-09-02 10:59:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
That's terrible.
I wish the "adults" of the world would realize that it is better to be prepared for heartache... I lost my cousin to cancer as well... she was in the hospital for 5 months before she passed. My whole family was kept informed on her condition, even the youngest cousins, and we soon knew she would not survive. Just knowing in advance helped lessen the blow when she did pass though. I knew that she was no longer in pain, and in the time before and after her passing I was able to reflect on her life and my relationship with her.
I truly wish you would have had this same opportunity. It has helped me tremendously.
I think your family was trying to protect you from the truth... when they should really be protecting you from LIES. You should share with them how this made you feel, maybe they didn't realize they were doing you wrong. My only hope for you, besides finding peace knowing that your cousin isn't suffering anymore, is that you have learned not to "protect" people with lies... it really does hurt worse in the end.
♥ God bless!
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2016-10-17 12:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the truth. It is easier to face the truth than deal with the reality and the feelings of deception after it is too late.
When I was a child my older brother was in a serious car accident. Totaled the car but he came out with a lot of bumps, bruises and a lot of stitches.
My Mom tried to 'protect' us from it. So we went to school not knowing but the kids in school knew. There is not enough space to tell you all the storied we were told, amongst them, that he was dead!
People I think can handle the truth much better than they can handle finding out the truth and the feelings of betrayal and deception and the fall out from them.
2007-09-02 11:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Hillbillee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The adults were hoping your cousin would somehow recover and didn't want to make you worry. The way they did it was wrong, but they never knew that until it was too late. It was a terrible loss and I hope you can get over it. Forgive those adults, they're only human and did what they thought was best, at the time.
2007-09-02 11:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is terrible to lie about something that important. I think even children have the capacity to understand death.
I think it is especially important to tell children the truth, they can be told in a way that won't scare them, you don't want them to process it the wrong way and be terrified of death the rest of their lives.
Adults should be told so they can say all the things they need to say. We all need that closure, not to be told would be so awful, I can't imagine not knowing and then to be told some one close is dead.
2007-09-02 11:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your sorrow. There are so many maybes here. Maybe your mother didn't know how serious it was. or thought it could be beaten by chemo therapy. Maybe she couldn't accept this death herself. Maybe she did not want you to worry. Have you given your mom the benefit of the doubt?
2007-09-02 12:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by Bibs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell my family and friends.
i would also do some sort of video for my son to see so he would know i loved him more then anything maybe even do a card for his birthdays something i seen on Oprah years ago. i would want to spend my time being and doing as much as i could d with my family. maybe help others to like a charity or something.
2007-09-02 11:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by ~*big mama *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were trying to protect you from hurt, but it rarely helps...you were hurt even more by the unintentional deception. I am so sorry, sweetie, for your loss. I would've wanted to know, too...to say good-bye.
I was born in Mercy Hosp. Dade County, Miami...
2007-09-02 11:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by CAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I would tell my loved ones so that they could be prepared. It will be hard, but it would be harder to have death come by surprise.
2007-09-02 11:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell them so that they could prepare themselves and the last few days that that person lives they would be able to live like they were dying
2007-09-02 11:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋