I live with my mom, and my 18 year old brother. I'm 12. I never knew my dad, and my brother kinda filled the dad role for me. I have some puberty questions, and it would be REALLY awkward to ask my mom. But my bro and I are alone for a few hours in the evening, and I have A LOT of questions that need to be answered. This is really embaressing. I know that if I asked him, he's help me, but how do I start the conversation? Thanks to anybody who helps.
2007-09-02 10:21:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First thank him for being your big brother you can talk to. Then tell him you are starting puberty soon and could use some advise and don't even know if you know the questions.
If you know the questions you could find answers on the internet or in the library.
You will undergo massive changes in your body and brain going from little boy to man. Hormones will make you think things you didn't even think about before at all. You will find yourself having a physical reaction to just thinking about another person you find attractive sexually, some you don't hardly find attractive like a school teacher. You will wake up having had dreams of sex and you will probably do things alone you never did before.
You will also get taller, more muscles and hair growing in places that didn't have hair before.
It is all normal, even the wild mood swings you might get. Kids in puberty are pretty moody but if you get too moody seek help and remember this too shall pass.
2007-09-02 10:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what big brothers r for! I know u guys have your arguments and dont get along half the time.....BUT believe me he will be there for you! Ask away and he will be soooo thrilled that u r coming to him and he will give u all the advice u want! U will probably have to slap him to make him shut up! Brothers are brothers and he will be totally cool with helping u! I have a teen son and he and I talk about everything and TRUST me he had me blushing more than once! Im his mom! But I was really thrilled when he did come to be instead of friends and such....Im sure your mom would answer your questions but go to your brother and he will be there for u! Good luck
2007-09-02 19:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by madeintheusa1234 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your brother's undivided attention when it's just the two of you, & tell him that you have some things that you need to talk to him about. Then you start asking him what's on your mind. Good luck! I'm glad your brother is filling the father figure role for you because that's very important for you.
2007-09-02 17:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well....y dont u say something like " o i heard in school something about this guy had condoms in his backpack" wats that?" or something related to sex or puberty. this way hell no u dont understand or dont know something and hell be like MAN i need to teach u some stuff. also, ask him if mom ever talked to him about it, and how it went. or u could get him to tell ur mom that u have question about ur body but are too embarrased to ask. and then she may make it easier for you and start it,or she might just buy u a book. if all else fails find a website.
2007-09-02 17:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to be embarressed-you are both guys. Don't worry about starting this conversation any different than any other conversation. Just say:"Hey, can I ask you a dumb question?" and let it roll, just like any other question.
If you guys get stuck on something, you may e-mail me from my profile.
2007-09-02 20:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by l00k_up 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start the conversation with ease. Don't rush on things. u might feel uncomfrotable asking him and he might feel uncomfortable talking about it. Respect his comfort zone. Try to use more scientific words like suppose u ask him "when people have sex...." istead of that ask like " when people REPRODUCE...". Using some not-so-common words will make it easy. Good luck!
2007-09-02 17:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by Chocogal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I want to ask mom some questions, but I dont feel comfortable to. Maybe you can answer them?'
If you dont want to ask him go to teenwire.com
They have lots of info
2007-09-02 18:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Hello_Goodbye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with whatever conversation like... talking about his first kiss and stuff or when he started dating and then make your way to your questions
2007-09-03 06:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say something like, i have some questions.... or something like that. but if u have some feel free to message me, i'll be able to help
2007-09-02 20:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"hey(brother's name)I need to talk to you about something"
or- "hey,can I talk to you for a minute?''
2007-09-02 17:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by Chef Smalls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋