What were the motives?do you feel remorse?what is your opinion of verbal abusers?do you secretly respect or admire them?would their social status or appearance affect how you view them?
2007-09-02 10:16:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical and sometime worse.
Sometimes the motives are to make the other person feel "lower" than the one doing the mouthing.
Verbal abusers need just as much help as anyone else abusing someone or something.
Social status and appearance: if you continually hear things like; 'You're ugly. You're stupid. You're not worth anything. Nobody wants you." then YES your social status and appearance would start being changed. Nobody can live with negative words eating at them daily and not change.
Basically if you are in a relationship with ANY type of abuse...seek help from a professional and don't let yourself be drawn down.
God created you to be happy not abused.
2007-09-02 10:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by okiemom67 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You feel more regretful than anything else, because usually with verbal abuse comes anger, and with anger, there's always the losing control feeling. So whatever comes to mind slips out in a negative way.
Some verbal abusers may not be intentionally abusing, but most probably are. I don't really respect them...but if there was a reason, maybe it's because they know that they can't bottle anything inside. If their appearance and social status is high, then I would look down on them, because not only they abuse with words, they're abusing on what people look to them as.
2007-09-02 18:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was engaged to a guy that was verbally abusive and I put up with it. I still have extremely low self esteem as well as low self confidence. However, when I would verbally attack back I would feel like a low class ghetto scum.
Needless to say I am now with someone who is Not verbally abusive nor does he provoke it to come out of me. He also boosts my self confidence by loving me for who and how I am and how I look. He's not very supportive in some areas but it was worth the trade in.
2007-09-02 18:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world is full of fools. We have to live and work with them. Some times we get hurt by verbal abuse. We have to come to normal level quickly and ignore them.
2007-09-04 02:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by thuppakki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I subjected myself to aN 8-yr marriage with an abusive man!! He was also an alcoholic--I think that the two go together! I tried to be "understanding", submissive; equally combative; and finally gave up after I found myself fleeing from this abusive man, down the road at midnight. He carried a rope and was yelling horrible things to me. I found a wonderful neighbor woman who let me in and I called the police. They came and escorted me in to get my daughter!! That was IT!! NEVER MORE! In his case, he NEVER had remose!! It was always my fault! NO WAY do I, or would I ever respect abusers of any category!! REGARDLESS of their social status!! In his case, his rage and anger came from his mother having abandoned him at age 7, leaving him with a very verbally abusive father!! He did not see her until he graduated from HS when she came to his graduation! He WORSHIPPED HER!! And he would NEVER have taken his rage upon her, but took it out on his WIVES!! His 3rd wife called me and asked if he'd ever been physically abusive to me. I choose not to discuss this with her, but advised her to take care of herself!!
2007-09-02 17:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Martell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋