I’m looking for unique ways of dealing with a friend of mine. We've been friends for a long time but what we once shared as commonalities are no more and our lives have gone in different directions. I've grown up, have a professional job, a wife and a house, saving for my retirement, etc...Basically I'm an adult now. My friend on the other hand is still living his same old reckless lifestyle...doing drugs, drinking, has no job, always wanting to borrow money, always calling me to ask if I can give him a ride to this place or that...it's really starting to get annoying because I've put that part of my life behind me. Sometimes I feel like telling him to get a job or if he quit buying drugs, maybe he could buy a car.
As strange as it may sound, I don't want him completely out of my life as we have a ton of history together (20+ years). I just want him to respect that i don't want to lend him money or be his personal taxi driver. What should I do?
2007-09-02 09:41:45 · 6 answers · asked by dave c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's great that you want to help him without cutting him out of your life, but sometimes that's what has to be done. Tell him to clean up his act, because you can't deal with his recklessness.
2007-09-02 09:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by wordless.pictures 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know one guy and he was like that and one of his friends pretty much had him live at his hosue and completely cut him off from the people that were being the bad influences and the friends that were getting him out to do that stuff. his friend made him get a job and pretty much took control over his life until he could set things straight. it may be a little hard to do that though with your wife and stuff but if you really want to help him you are going to have to pull him out of his current lifestyle.
2007-09-02 16:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kay-Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell ur friend straight out u dont need in trouble so u cant do that for him any more but he can still be ur friend and remind him about the old times u been best friends but be for he started drinking and stuff and hopefully he aint to drunk to under stand or move on
2007-09-02 16:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by maryann s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're broke until payday. Or you got ripped off in one of those fake investment scams. How about try and borrow money off of him. Of course he won't have it, but it might get him to think a bit.
2007-09-02 16:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Be honest. He needs to get a job and maybe coming from you he will take it to heart. (since you have been friends for so long)
2007-09-02 16:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by CrazedCatholic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just advise him , try to guide him to right way if he does not want then forget about him .
2007-09-02 16:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by coolman3455 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋