I've been divorced for 2 yrs now. I'm expecting a baby from my new husband and yet my ex still won't let go. He keeps calling me and playing sad love songs on my voicemail. And he keeps telling me that it should be his baby I'm carrying and he's even passed by my work a few times. I don't know what to do. I threatened to call the police and he hasn't driven by my job anymore, but he won't quit calling and texting me. I am changing my number, but he sends me letters in the mail as well. What should I do?
2007-09-02 09:21:04 · 16 answers · asked by DRE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is stalking you, plain and simple. If possible, you need to take the tapes from the voice mail, letters, and get video if possible of his coming by your work or home. Take this to the district attorney in your county and ask how to file a stalking charge against him. Breaking a restraining order is nothing more than a slap on the wrist but breaking the law against a stalking conviction can lead to jail time. It should make him think twice before contacting you or bothering you again.
Keep the evidence and keep a journal of each occurrence including date, time, and what he was driving. Get pictures if possible. most cellular phones have cameras on them. If that is not possible, keep a disposable or a reasonably cheap digital camera with you at all times.
Believe me, a stalking offense will get his attention or put him in jail. One way or the other he will get the idea.
2007-09-02 09:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Paisley Place 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun its the price you pay when you are divorced with children. Except it, move on and stop trying to control him. I always welcomed my exes excuses not to see the kids. It gave me more time with them and they also always knew who was constantly there for them. They grow up faster then you can imagine and there will come a day when you wish you would have spent all the time in the world with them. Mine are now grown and moved out and I have no regrets on having to keep them when it was supposed to be dads turn. Who do you think they call now when they have a problem or just want someone to talk to or get home sick? Not their dad that's for sure. You have to make sure their needs are met before yours even if it means putting a date on hold. I did that many times and never had second thoughts about it.
2016-05-19 06:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your new husband think? I'd be filing for a restraining order and saving those voice mails and keeping a log of calls to get the restraining order. If mail comes - 'return to sender'.
2007-09-02 09:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Restraining Order!!
2007-09-02 09:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't return the letters. You'll need them as evidence.
Get a restraining order and a gun. The restraining order will protect you legally. The gun will protect you physically.
Oh, he's not that kind of guy?
People get kind of funny when they're served with a restraining order - and not funny "Ha, ha" either.
This situation has got 'bad' written all over it.
2007-09-02 09:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to report him, he seems love sick and devastated but he could become dangerous. You need to document when it happens and how often and maybe keep some of the voice mails and texts and report him and if you have a bunch of information reported if you ever need to report again it will be easier to catch him, but he is stalking you and that is very hard to prove to the police...
2007-09-02 09:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your husband knows about this harassment....He should back you up and confront your ex-husband. You are pregnant and this kind of thing is unnecessarily stressful!
Ask a lawyer what to do, too. A restriction order or a warrant sound like other options.
Good luck... and congratulations on your baby.
2007-09-02 09:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to let go you might consider filing for a restraining order. You're going to have to document the texting and phone calls and such.
2007-09-02 09:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney involved, and if that doesn't end things, you will have to put a restraint order on him.
Sorry you have to go through that, but it might be the only way.
2007-09-02 09:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by antonio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for a restraining order. Cut off all contact with him.
2007-09-02 09:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋