my son is 4½ mo's old and he has slept with me since he was born....i no it was wrong but it was th eonly way to gte hiom to sleep...but now it has gotten out of controll...he will only fall asleep on my breast.. and if i move him and try to put him down... hes awake instantly.. ive rocled him for 2 hours b4 trying to put him down but he just wont let me... end up giving in and sleeping with him again...what do i do?
2007-09-02 09:18:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i also want to try to let himmc ry it out but my bf wont let me..is there ne other way?
2007-09-02 09:21:41 · update #1
He knows you'll give in that's why he keeps crying. Make sure his tummy is full and his diaper is changed...basically make sure he has everything he needs and put him down in his crib. Try some soft music and his mobile. The pacifier, even if he usually never takes it will soothe him too (sometimes you have to stay there gently holding it against his mouth. Leave the room, let him cry. After 10 minutes, go back in, don't touch him or pick him up just start the mobile again and say goodnight. Keep this going, eventually he'll understand that he won't get what he wants by crying all the time and he'll get used to it. It will be 3 or 4 long hard nights but after that you'll be free.
2007-09-02 09:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by julybutterfly 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
For the person who just said Co-sleeping raises the risks of SIDS? Nuh-uh, its the other way around.
Heres an article about that.
http://www.breastfeeding.com/reading_roo/co_slepping.html
My little guy has just turned 5 months old. He wouldn't sleep in his bassinet, so he would sleep with me. It gave me *so* much more rest. He *can* be a bit difficult to get to sleep sometimes, but nothing I can't handle. I've put him into a routine. He *loves* a bath, so when it comes to about bedtime and he's getting a tad tired, i put him into his bath - plays for 10-15 minutes, then starts getting tired again. I whip him out, dry and dress him, give him another quick feed to 'top him up' if he needs it, then I either go and sit in a rocking chair and watch tv with him until he falls asleep, or I walk around the house. When he turned about the same age your baby is now, he started sleeping on his own quite happily. PROVIDED, that I put him on his stomach. (But, he's able to roll over & lift his head, so thats okay.) Before then, he just wanted his momma.
Until he was able to sleep on his own I took the side off his cot and pushed it against our bed. I would lie him down and cuddle him as best as I could. As soon as I was sure he was asleep, i'd roll into my own bed. I'd stay in the room for 5 minutes or so - and then leave the room if I wanted. Sometimes worked, sometimes didn't.
I'm sure you have instincts and a deep feeling of what you *want* to do for your baby. Just don't worry about what others say...just do whatever you find comes natrually. Motherhood doesn't come out of a book with instructions. It comes from the mothers heart. Listen to ideas all you want, but remember that he's your baby, don't let anyone bully you into doing anything - like crying it out, unless you are absolutely sure that is what *you* want.
Goodluck :) & trust your instincts. Thats why you have them.
A question I asked awhile ago about getting my baby to sleep
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvhkAx3BRRUVC7_z7PeE7wbty6IX?qid=20070704172250AAMUXZt
2007-09-02 09:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by priestessofthepixels 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with letting your baby sleep with you as long as you are both happy. If it's an issue for you now I suggest you read the book Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child. It offers a loose schedule to follow to help get baby to sleep better. It worked miracles for my son and didn't involve tons of crying like some other methods do.
ETA: There are NO studies that show that safe co-sleeping raises SIDS rates. However, there ARE studies that show safe co-sleeping LOWERS SIDS rates.
2007-09-02 09:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is a proven fact that co sleeping raises the risks of sids, so getting him into his own crib is a good idea. It is very hard emotionally to let your baby cry it out, but it teaches him to fall asleep on his own. Don't let him cry for hours, but understand that it will take a good while. My best suggestion, have your bf take you out on a date. Let grandma or auntie babysit and be the bad guy the first night. Tell them that you are having trouble and need theirs support. Any good friend or family member should be willing to help you with this. You may want to lend them your ipod and headphones to drown out the crying;) Good luck and be strong! It is better for you and baby in the end!
2007-09-02 09:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Whether your boyfriend likes it or not, you need to let him cry a bit. Try laying your son down as soon as he falls asleep. Let him cry for only 15 minutes a time, go in, offer him breast or bottle, and if he doesnt want it, lay him back down. It takes a little time, but he will get used to it.
Also starting a bedtime routine helps. Around the same time every night, give him a warm bath and a warm bottle with the lights down low. In a couple weeks he'll start knowing its time to sleep!
Stay strong, I know its hard!
2007-09-02 09:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋
try putting a big comfortable (like Velore) towel on the living room floor and get him used to lying on it,maybe even with you laying next to him and let him fall asleep on it,lift it up over his feet and then let him sleep there in the day and evenings until he gets used to sleeping alone...
2007-09-02 09:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Honesty 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I side with your bf... if all 3 of you are happy just let him sleep w/ you...
2007-09-02 09:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Tony L 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your "bf won't let" you? I don't think so! You're bf isn't your boss.
Let the baby cry it out and eventually he'll sleep in his own bed.
2007-09-02 09:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by :://::Christi::\\:: 2 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I am a firm believer in co-sleeping, so keep him in the bed.
2007-09-02 09:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by parental unit 7 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Let him Cry it out
2007-09-02 09:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 6⤋