I am one of those people who is just not very likeable what do I do?

Question

I am just one of those people who everyone, even the teachers, just never liked.

one of the only friends I have constantly reminds me that she used to hate me. not "dislike", hate.

I don't want to have to change my personality in order to make friends, and I feel like changing myself only lets me have fake friends.

I don't want any of that bullshit that says "just be yourself!!!" because that's what got me in this situation in the first place.

even at my old school, I was the only one out of 26 kids that wasn't part of the clique. I was always picked last, and I just want it to end.

what do I do? ):

Answer 1

Since you haven't given us ANY indication of what it is that people don't like about you, it's hard to say.

Then there's the fact that you neither want to continue to be yourself, nor change, which makes it hard, as you're going to end up doing either one or the other.

All that's left is to wait until you finish growning up and leave high school; life is VERY different after high school.

In the meantime, maybe you could find friends among the others "no one" likes.

Finally, it's possible to tone down the things that make people dislike you (if, for example, you're habitually rude; stop it, and give people a chance to realize you're no longer rude all the time; some may come around), without completely taking on a fake personality.

Again, without specifics, it's hard to say.

Answer 2

Sit down, take a piece of paper and write down what YOU think is likeable about yourself. Then - write down some examples, f.e. if you said "I'm a good person", write next to that what actually makes you think you are a good person. Maybe that will make you reflect on anything you might be doing wrong. You say you have a good friend - why not talk to her/him why they didn't like you before. If they're a good friend -they'll explain. Also, talk to your parents or a close family member who knows you. But make sure they know you want a heartfelt chat with them because therwise they might tend to dodge the question. Also consider your body language - whether you smile enough or a generally open towards people. A smile can get you really far! Try smiling more for starters and go from there, look on the bright side of things! Good luck!

Answer 3

I understand that if you continue to be disliked time after time, you feel defeated and quite negative. What's already positive is that you don't want to change yourself - don't. It'll only get you in situations that aren't real to you.

Instead, try being positive and polite. If you smile at people and just say hi to them, that already helps some. Negativity only scares away people. Give compliments if you mean them (not too many or it'll seem like you're sucking up). I wouldn't try to immediately befriend a whole clique: if you catch one of the "members" alone, it's way easier to strike up a conversation. It takes a while to warm up to people, so give it time.

Remember that school isn't the only thing out there. Join some type of club outside of school, where you can meet a lot of other people.

As for your friend - that's not very nice of her. Maybe next time she says it, you should tell her that saying that only brings you down.

Answer 4

Are you truthful by any chance?
Your not on your own, there are probably quite a few people that refuse to act out a life to fit in, I too have never been liked yes Iv tried having friends but they tend to let me down as I apparently expect too much, I expect for them to be truthful is it too much to ask for, to meet somebody who doesn't feel the need to lie about anything apparently so. So I decided to be a loner rather than drop my standards I live by my morals.
This may be totally different from your situation if it is all I can suggest is that you explore your personality and find out what it is that makes you special and decide if you want it or if you can change it. One other thing I should mention is that everyone I ever met said "your not at all like everybody said you were I think your really nice. people described me as a weirdo, that mad Donna, a witch, evil, scary, hard and the list goes on, so Im a friend to people who need my help, once Iv helped them they move on but at least I know they wont be listening to people slagging me down, a few even defend my reputation now, but Im 37 its taken a long time. I f you think we share a situation and I can help at all feel free to email me. Hope you find your way.

Answer 5

I am a very sarcastic person and many people don't like me sometimes either. I am also brutely honest only when someone asks for my opinion tho figure if they don't want to know what i think they shouldn't ask lol, but trust me just like the one girl became ur friend so will others be you and keep your head up high and you will soon have many. But do remember you have to respect others being yourself and just being rude is two diff things.

Answer 6

there isn't any particular thank you to make certain a character isn't stressful by using fact that could be a speculative verb. What you communicate approximately stressful, i wouldn't. decrease a character's suggestions to the area (whether those suggestions are darkish or ironic in nature). do not coach a character acknowledging that they are depressed basically to lament over the actuality that they are depressed for the subsequent 10 pages. You stay in the character's suggestions and "coach" their melancholy in the process the quirky/darkish techniques they interpret their project. you do not coach them crying each 10 minutes or crying woo over the actuality that they are on xanax. that's the comparable as displaying a sarcastic character. You write out their suggestions with a sarcastic undertone. Depressed people tend to interpret issues negatively despite the fact that that is humorous. melancholy isn't synonymous with "suicidal" or overblown with melodramatic theatrics. they may well be mildly depressed with destructive characteristics/suggestions. Or they may well be bipolar and attempt to run you over with a vehicle one minute, then ask you to forgive them the subsequent.

Answer 7

firstable think -what exactly do you want? you don't want to change but you also don't want to be yourself coz that causes you problems, you don't want to be left out anymore? then, sorry, no other way then to be different, act different or at least change some of your traits, those what is hated by people the most...but personally I'd suggest you to search for other people with whom to chum, someone who are more like you and someone who could like you just the way you are, coz friends means exactly that, to like you no matter how you are, only that's hard to do : / however good luck!

Answer 8

HÌ Marie. You don't have to change your personality. I think that you just need to work on those characteristics which people don't like. Take note of what exactly is creating this dislike towards yourself then work on it.

Answer 9

well if you don't want to change your personality, why are you asking us for help. you cannot get help without putting forth the effort of changes needed

Answer 10

same here for all my life so try consoling and books