Ok, I am 25 and my husband is 41 years old. We've been married for 6 years, we do not have kids yet, but he has children from previous marriage. Every time I ask a question on yahoo answers I get really negative reaction from people , like "what are you doing with such an old man" or "how can he be so irresponsible to marry a twenty year old woman, he has children and needs to be a responsible father!" or " why would you marry an old man with kids" etc. Well, I married him because I love him, what's wrong with loving an older man? Yes, we have conflicts and we have problems and we work on them because we care about each other and we want to be together. Yes, sometimes it is hard to get along with him and we are different, we like different things and we have different opinions, but that happens in many marriages. So why are people so judgemental and criticize both of us just because he is older than me? I am in my twenties but it doesn't make me stupid or irresponsible!
2007-09-02 08:52:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am also very attractive and people often tell me that my husband only married me because I am young and beautiful. They do not understand why we are together.
2007-09-02 08:53:57 · update #1
I am not looking for approval, I just would like to know why people think it is so wrong to marry an older person? Specific reasons - why?
2007-09-02 08:59:24 · update #2
Also a lot of people say " well, she only married him for his money". Unfortunately, we are not rich at all and can't even afford to buy a house right now....
2007-09-02 09:02:40 · update #3
Dear Stellar, thanks for calling me a trailer trash, it really shows your level of intelligence. I do have a job, I own my own business, so does my husband. Good luck to you!
2007-09-02 09:19:13 · update #4
I do not care what strangers think about me and my husband, but I do care what people we know and care about think about us. How do I not let people's comments bother me?
2007-09-02 09:29:37 · update #5
I feel empathy for you, dear, and that's because I know how difficult daily life can get when people write you off because they don't want to give you the benefit of the doubt.
Actually, you have less than twenty years age difference between you, so technically, that puts you both in the same generation. Sixteen years isn't that big a deal to me.
Why don't people look at same-age couples and wonder what keeps THEM together? Certainly, it's no guarantee that you'll be compatible, have equal intelligence or love each other!
I commend you for standing by your marriage and your man and hope all good things come your way.
Never mind the rude people. They haven't got a clue.
2007-09-02 09:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a boyfriend 20 years older than me, so it's not like I disapprove of age differences in relationships. Your relationship may very well be genuine true love on both sides. However, many of those age-difference relationships have little to nothing to do with love, and are very much the older guy marrying to having his young trophy babe, and the younger woman marrying for money. Some of these guys replace the woman with a younger one as soon as she gets a few gray hairs and wrinkles. These guys wouldn't be caught dead with a woman anywhere near their own age. This is not to say this is YOUR situation. But that situation happens frequently enough that it's not unreasonable to suspect it when one hears of these cases.
2007-09-02 09:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that as long as you have both turned 18 and therefore are legally classed as adults then it dosent matter what anybody elses opinion is your both adults and you can do what you like, some people may find a very big age gap a concern or perhaps deem the relationship to not be genuine but haters are going to hate! (there is an eight year gap between me and my bf) p.s. Have you actually met each other? im just saying be careful because there are many online predators out there p.p.s As my gran says, there is a jack for every jill out there!
2016-04-02 23:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 15 yrs older. Now my ex, but we still get along and love each other dearly, Yes we are divorced, Age never played a part in the divorce and never and I mean never affected us, Oh my friends gave me a hard time to aggravate me, but she always fitted in. So If you have no problems with the age then 1st. Don't let anyone get to you about what is said. 2nd, if it is bothering you stop bringing it up on here where people love to show there ignorance.
2007-09-02 11:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by Josh S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the opposite situation. I'm 41 and my H is 29 and extremely hot! I always have people commenting on why I married him. They assume it was for the sex or whatever but I've learned that I don't care anymore. We have a very special, healthy, wonderful and fulfilling relationship. That is the only thing that is important to me.
2007-09-02 18:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by coolmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care what people online think about you married and how old you were when you met? Does it matter what strangers really think of you and your husband's age gap??
You can not control who you love so you can not pcik what age they are. Maybe you should just be happy and content about it and let others peoples opinions out of your head.
2007-09-02 09:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you have come together, and have formed a close loving relationship, to heck with all the gossip mavens. There are a lot worse things in life than a few years age difference.
Instead, let your ego have the boost, and consider yourself his trophy wife. You both deserve it.
2007-09-02 09:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what people think? It's your life. You don't need anyone's approval. Be happy.Of course you have problems, we all do. It's not fair to criticize you just because your husband is older than you.
2007-09-02 08:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fo noy worry about wht other people think my wife is 9 uears older than me I f you are happilu married stay that way. You do have an wxcellent question though. Some peole do not understand much about life
2007-09-02 09:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by John W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the guys are probably jealous of him.
And who knows what the women - any women - are thinking. Maybe they're jealous of his financial stability; assuming he has some.
Personally I had a hard time bridging the 15 year age gap between myself and one of my junior female engineers. If it works for you who cares?
Maybe you're spending too much time listening to other people.
2007-09-02 09:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋