took her out to diner and then we went shoping, she got what ever she wanted and did . I spent over three hundred dollars on her. on the way home she did nothing but complain about somthing dumb and stupid. y can't she just be happy that I do things for her.
2007-09-02 08:50:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
may be she' just not a happy person
2007-09-02 08:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly RIch 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming there is no hormonal or situational stuff going on that would affect her mood. If so:
I don't think it's you. I think some people really don't know how to relax and be happy. The shopping might have gotten her more agitated if she's a compulsive spender; it can have that effect sometimes, like an alcoholic who drinks and drinks but can't get drunk. It sounds like there is more going on here than meets the eye.
It's not your fault and you can't make her change. If this happens a lot you both might benefit from counselling. She sounds pretty unhappy and it's spilling over into the marraige.
2007-09-02 16:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something seems obviously wrong in the relationship. Determining what parts are because of you or her is for you to figure out.
Keep in mind that doing material things for a woman does not instantly solve problems. Although flowers, dinner and shopping should all seem nice to her, perhaps she is not getting the emotional attention that she needs or wants.
On the other hand, perhaps she is focusing on the wrong aspects of the relationship and not seeing what you are doing for her.
Since I don't know the specific situation, this is all speculation, but hopefully it may shed some light.
2007-09-02 15:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by cassnate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your wife sounds a lot like someone I know. The only thing you can do is just sit her down and tell her straight up that you don't appreciate it. You want to be given the same respect and appreciation and love that you give her.
And if that doesn't help then you can always seek marriage counciling. Because if one person in the marriage isn't happy, then no one is and it's best seek counciling before it goes completely down hill.
2007-09-02 16:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but I don't hold my thoughts back on here. Because she's a selfish, spoiled little *****. I dated.........I mean......I suffered in a relationship with a woman that did that all the time. B!tched and whined and complained all the time. Nasty attitude, never happy, filled with hatred and anger.
No way to go man.......all you did was waste your time and money. Women like her are a dime a dozen.....feels the world owes them everything.
All you are is a life support system for a paycheck to her...that's all.
Been there...done that.
2007-09-02 15:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's not in the proper state of mind, which seems like selfishness in this case, but cultivating an attitude of gratitude can take time if you aren't a natural born optimist.
You were very sweet to spend your time, attention and money all with her happiness in mind.
2007-09-02 15:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you arent that great emotionally maybe you spend too much time out and not paying attention to her. One night like that with material goods doesnt mean you're a good guy. You didnt explain what she was complaining about so I might be wrong but if she brought up something about your relationship and you didnt take it seriously you sound like a jerk to me. Stop showering her with these gifts and start being a boyfriend
2007-09-02 15:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by LilybearPDP 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your wife should feel very blessed to have such a wonderful and caring husband. It just goes to show you that no matter how much you do for a person you just can't make them happy!
2007-09-02 16:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard sayin' not knowin'.
Maybe you just overwhelmed her with your attention - or maybe you are normally a real pain in the butt.
My wife would interpret those actions on my part as setting her up for sex, which I would have been back in the day.
2007-09-02 15:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are trying too hard - or maybe she's simply not interested. If she wasn't always like this, find out what changed, when and why - then figure out how to resolve it, together.
Best Wishes.
2007-09-02 20:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something stupid? What was that? Did you call her fat or gawk at another womans big boobs?...or did you just forget to open the door for her or something? It depends on what you mean by "stupid".
2007-09-02 15:56:03 · answer #11 · answered by Shayna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋