Ok so like I screw up on a project, right? Next time I do a project, I think of last time I screwed up and eventually screw up this one too. And I always do that. I always think back on how I screwed up, and I SCREW UP! Or that time that big dog jumped on me. Ever since that happened, when I see a big dog, I cant even be around it. Or when I tried to dunk and hang on, on a hoop, I fell. Ever since I couldnt hang on cuz im afraid I will fall down. See the problem here? I always look back on and how the things that I do in the present, and always either screw them up like a project or afraid of dogs and afraid that it will jump on me. If this continues, what the hell life would I have? Looking back always and thinking how I will screw up in the present, too. What do I do?
2007-09-02 08:35:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Take authority of the fear and let it go...
The Alcoholics have a good system in their "one day at a time" view. Try that... do not look beyond any particular day. Each day is a NEW day. New hopes, new dreams, new experiences.
But, I rather a person learn from the old experiences... look at each event, and study it...what went wrong? Try it differently. TRY TRY AGAIN...good motto...at least you haven't given up if you keep having probs! Give yourself a pat on the back! :)
Personally, I would rather have the Lord in my life to be at my side whenever I face those type of things... :)
Peace be with you :)
2007-09-02 08:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by ForeverSet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do screw up a project or anything you are only remembering that you screwed up and instead you should look at what really happened like you overslept and forgot to finish it so only remember you over slept and then take what you can learn from that to correct it by going to sleep earlier and getting the project done earlier in the first place. Look for why it happened and not at how it felt bad.
Just because something happens once never means that it will happen again just do your best to learn from your mistakes and break it down to see what steps you can take to avoid any problems. I don't like t when dogs jump on me so I generally stay away from them but I wonder if this happened when you were a small boy as that can be traumatic experience but as you get older you wont find as many big dogs.
I think you could bennifit from more positive thinking and a boost in your self confidence. Watch what you say to yourself by dwelling on these negitive thoughts you are just manifesting your fears which is actually more common than you would think I am finding a lot of people are not even aware they are doing it. You see what is goning on and how they relate so you are pretty intuitive and smart and you are at the first step but it is the hardest one.
Negitive thnking is just a bad habit that a lot of us get into so at first just practice thnking about how good your project will be and if you can put as much energy into succeeding as you do about the past you will probably have no more problem, but it can be tricky just remember your subconcious mind won't hear negitive words like if you say "I will not screw up like last time" you are saying "I will screw up like last time" and your question is also very negitive and if you say just your question you are off to a bad start. Also your self doubt could make you hesitate and mis the hoop and fall of coures not everyone needs to hang on a hoop but if you are more positive you probably will with some practice and if your tall enough.
You will never be stuck with anything for the rest of your life as you can change anything you want in yourself.
2007-09-02 09:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by stacey b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking of the times you did good. Like the time the big dog was playing with you. A dog can sense how you feel. If you are afraid it will think your nervous and it will make the dog nervous. So relax and move on ......focus on the positive not the negative.
2007-09-02 08:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lord NeXuS M00N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never be afraid of the past. Just tell yourself what's done is done and there's nothing you can do to change that. You should really learn from the past so that you don't make the same mistakes.
2007-09-02 08:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by GirlsDeadMonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE HAVE TO BE SOME BENEFITS OR REWARDS ASSOCIATED WITH THAT CAREER OF YOURS OR YOU WOULDN'T CONTINUE TO EXHIBIT THE SAME BEHAVIORS - ONLY A CRAZY GUY WOULD DO THAT. I SEE THAT DARN DOG OF MINE IS CARRYING MY HOMEWORK TO THE TOILET. YOU MUST EXCUSE ME NOW.
2007-09-02 08:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by GENE 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your mommy didn't love you enough
2007-09-02 08:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by Punkerjim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋