How do you know that your husband won't dump you while you are in a hospital?

Question

I was in that hospital once, it was really bad, everyone bundled into one room, with different diseases and conditions, and there was that woman in the corner, crying constantly. She got ill suddenly and they took her to this charitable free hospital, and while she lay there, her husband threw all her things away and brought a young woman home.
And she had no money and could not pay for drugs and treatments, and no food, and her neighbour brought her some food, and she just sat on her bed and cried all the time.
I was so impressed by this woman. How do you know your husband won't do the same if you are chanced to get ill?

Answer 1

Hooly crap! Hope I don't get sick anytime soon.

Answer 2

The answer is that you do not know. The scenario described is one that sounds as if that couple had problems long before her illness. The hospitalization was nothing more than an excuse the husband used to get out of the marriage. It was already falling apart so he took the opportunity to walk. Unfortunately, this woman is going to have to pick herself up and start over because doing nothing is accomplishing nothing. She can file for alimony based on pain and suffering as a result of the separation if she feels she deserves it.

As for other marriages, it comes down to trust and the strength of the marriage. My personal marriage has taken many hits due to health problems yet my husband is still there. In fact, about two weeks ago he had to take me to the ER for rebounding migraines. I suffered with them for over a week until he finally said it was enough. The medications were not working so it was time to go. He sat with me through the entire process including the injections of Dilaudid and Phenergran, which hurt like h*ll. I was extremely woozy when the doctor released me into my husband's care. I was not in any capacity to sign any paperwork so he did. He brought me home, took care of me, the children, the house, and even my guide dog for three days. The injection knocks me out for about 3-4 days every time I have to get it.

Throughout my learning I had an eye disease and optic nerve problem, learning I had inoperable nerve damage in my right arm, learning I had lupus and Sjogren's disease, and arthritis and joint disease too he still stays at my side through thick and thin, feast or famine, sickness and health.

Our marriage is not perfect. We do argue and bicker on occasions, many actually because we are the epitome of opposites attracting yet somehow, when the chips are down we are at the other's side immediately without question.

It is important to take time prior to marriage to get to know the man you are considering marrying. I had a five-year engagement before I said yes. After five years, all the common stuff is out of the way and out in the open. It allows you to take off the rose-colored glasses and see the person for who he/she is rather than who you want him/her to be. Take your time and get to know each other before jumping into marriage. That is where the real answer resides.

Answer 3

I had three from my ex-husband before we got a devorce he did not show for his two daghters birth but I told him if he want to be with me and his daughters we have to get married but when his son was born in 2001 he thought he was big stuff didn't want to pay bills he just drunk liquor so in 2005 of November the 3 I filled for a devorce. Now ne and his 2 remaining children are so happy the first I had died last year she would of been happy also

Answer 4

You don't, you just have to have faith and trust your spouse enough to know that they wouldn't do that to you. If they really loved you then they won't hurt you like that, especially if you are sick. I feel for the other woman, she didn't deserve that, no one does, sounds like her husband was a POS anyway and she'll probably be better off without him. All you really can do is sit down with your spouse and talk about this situation and find out what their feelings are on the subject. Have a wonderful day! : )

Answer 5

You don't know. You just have to take your chances in life and do not worry about the what if's. You have no clue what her relationship was like with him. Maybe she was a real b*tch or maybe he was a real b*tch. You just don't know. The story is heartbreaking but life is life and sometimes very unexpected things befall us. It is all a part of the plan, regardless of what your religious affiliation may be. Just don't live in fear and don't let the what if's plague you.

Answer 6

Life can really show you some unexpected aspects of loved ones. You just learn that along the way. you never know what the future holds. I envy the people who think they do know what the future holds - they have to be pretty complacent and content.

Answer 7

My hubby went to a BBQ at his sister's (so he said) while I laid in ICU from nearly dying from a stomach ulcer. There is no guarantee. I would hope he thought more of you than that to be there with you. My hubby now stays with me if I have a hospital stay. Good luck.

Answer 8

You really don't know if he would do such a hateful thing, but I think that she should get it in her heart to say,'' what goes around, goes around''. I pray that she get on her feet and be 10 times better than she was with him.

Answer 9

Because he isn't a heartless jerk and I know he loves me in the first place which obviously that woman's husband didn't

Answer 10

The same way that he hopes you won't dump him and take him to the cleaners at any given moment.

Answer 11

if its your one and only true soulmate you woulnt even give it a thought so if you are asking this question you dont have total faith and trust in your husband is he really your soulmate.