Hi, am going to marry my bf this november. I met him from matrimonial service last february then I came to visit him several times in UAE and found that he is the guy am looking for the rest of my life. We are from different nationality, he is indian and I'm indonesian.
Everything with us is almost perfect, only 1 thing is bothering me that his marriage status. He's been separated morethan 3 years and the wife now living in UK with her bf & his kids . Since we are muslim and there's a rule that muslim man may have till 4 wifes, but I don't want someday she comes to UAE & claimed my husband as hers too since they don't take legally divorce.
I talked about this few times but he always said "no worries at all ", so tell me what to do now ? I do love him but dont want to be in trouble someday.
2007-09-02 08:09:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know you love him. I know he says he loves you. But he once loved her enough to marry her. If he does love you then he will get a divorce. You need that closer to that relationship in order to be able to move on with your own. If he wont get a divorce then I'm sorry it seems he still has feelings for her. He can't have his cake and eat it too (both of you). I know you would not want to be stuck in that situation later down the line and you deserve more! You do have "worries" he needs to be more receptive of your feelings and dedicate hisself to only you. Good luck!
2007-09-02 08:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by hottexanmommy2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he does divorce this woman, dear, you still have the same problem. He can choose to marry up to 3 more women After he marries you if he wants to.
As long as you're good with that, go ahead and marry him after he's divorced.
If you want to be the only wife....I'd find out how Muslims do that. Otherwise, you'll be his only wife until he decides you're not.
2007-09-02 09:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks that he might use the other wife to get to the UK one of these days, to immigrate there as a spouse. Otherwise, why wouldn't he divorce? Now he will be living with you as a wife, and rip the benefits, when the time come he'll drop you and go to the UK.
2007-09-02 08:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must get a divorce from her, plain and simple. Do not take "no worries" as an answer.
You don't want to work hard for everything you have in life and then one day she claims she has a stake in it.
Tell him you will NOT marry him until he is officially divorced on paper.
2007-09-02 08:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in this case yes, I'd say he needs to divorce her. Is this a normal pratice in his country? Make sure he even can divorce her, some contries don't accept it. But if that will make you feel better. Good Luck.
2007-09-02 08:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a way to start a life long committment. "Forcing" the love of your life to get a divorce. Think about it. Get your clothes and shoes on and start walking and don't look back.
2007-09-02 08:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really ready to marry you and be done with her he should have no trouble divorcing her.
2007-09-02 08:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by HappyBunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not divorced don't marry. If he won't divorce, hes obviously NOT what you're looking for.
2007-09-02 08:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt marry him until he was legally divorced from all his women
2007-09-02 08:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by pink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
miracle, Hon better safe than sorry !
2007-09-02 08:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋