I'm trying to figure out what to do with my life. I have 3 kids and I am married. I want to go back to school and get an education. I have a GED because I dropped out of high school due to an unplanned pregnancy. I would love to be able to support myself and my three kids financially by myself if I ever needed to. The problem is that I can't find my passion in life.
I do like photography,animals and nature. But I just feel like I'm not really good at anything. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family (which probably led to the early pregnancy). Basically I have no one I can really count on for support. So is there anywhere I can go where I can be motivated and led in the right direction? I really want to succeed in life and I want my children to be proud of me.
2007-09-02 07:37:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think kids that have supportive parents or parent growing up do better in school. I couldn't concentrate in school because of what was happening at home. and I am not blaming my parents. i just want some support thats all. there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-09-02 08:05:02 · update #1
my hat is off to you for knowing that unhappy parents hurt their kids. you sound very smart. your kids are so lucky to have a mom like you. i dont know where you live so i dont know what the employment picture is in your area. but there are lots of entry level positons that have to do with photography animals and nature, just depends where you live. i come from a family that has a curse. we are not good at anything,,,, we are sorta good at a ton of things, and we all call that our curse, with a laugh, because we have a lot of options to use all our sorta good talents. so do you, it sounds l ike, and i prefer to think of that as a plus!! and the fact that you came from a rather tumultuous family also gives you a sort of street smart edge that makes you a quick learner and a savvy survivor, because you tend to not be very afraid of things. its all good. google employment placement aptitude tests and also on monster.com they probably have a ton of employment advice.
in my opinion raising 3 fantastic children makes you a huge success in my book.
2007-09-02 08:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old high school might be able to help you as well as a local community college.
Realize you don't have to be "good" at something to enjoy it or for it to be a passion. And while it would be great to have a career that was centered around your passion, often that is just not possible.
If you enjoy photography and nature, how about every week you take your kids to a new scenic area. (A nature preserve, go by a river or take a walk in the woods.) Take photos of your kids or the wildlife. You'll create great memories (ones that will last a lifetime because of the photographs) and you can work on developing your skills as a photographer.
Sometimes we have jobs because they pay the bills, but we have hobbies and belong to groups because that's where our passion lies.
Just be careful to not let guidance counselors steer you into what they think is best for you. You will have to figure it out on your own. Usually through trial and error.
I think you are already headed in the right direction. good luck!!!!!
2007-09-02 07:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww...you sound like me :o)
I was 16 when I got pregnant and had to make some tough choices then too. I started out on Welfare, got no child support, felt worthless and depressed all the time. Finally, I took the initiative to change things into positives in my life. My son is now 17 and doing great! I am a financially independant woman, (nurse), and I dont feel I need to depend on anyone for anything.
Okay...here is what you do.
Even if you dont persue a career and just want to take some classes to increase your skills.....
Go to a community college. Talk to an advisor in the career center. They will test you, find out what you have an apptitude for. Then....they will tell you what you need to do to go back to school.
Make sure...to go back to school while your kids are young. You will qualify for all kinds of finacial aide because of the kids. Take advantage of any help people will give you, from babysitting to money. Ask the college about financial assitance, transportation assistance, child care assistance, on campus employment opportunities........This is too important of an opportunity to pass up.
What are you still doing reading this?...........Go.....get busy.
Ohhh ...and Good luck!!! :o)
2007-09-02 08:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by pink 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sunshine: It sounds like you could use a little in your life right now. I have a couple of suggestions for you. It sounds like you are really trying to narrow your focus into this one little choice you feel you have to make and guess what? You don't have to make a choice right now. Congratulations for wanting to make an improvement in your life for you and your children. Let's take some baby steps first.
First step : Look at attending a Community College. It is less expensive than a four year school and the requirements to get in are usually a bit less strict than a four-year school. Then you can start focusing on what you like, but there will be some standard courses you will have to take. Those will hep you narrow your focus. (Who knows? You may decide you really, really like math.) They will probably also have advisors on staff t help you figure out what you really would like to do.
I guess my bottom line is don't get overwhelmed by choices. Take one step, one day at a time. (Corny, but true.) I believe you can accomplish your goals. Decide to be your own cheerleader. You survived the dysfunction and are still here. That's a lot right there.
I wish you the absolute best. You can do it.
2007-09-02 08:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by CGordo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what your passion is nor should they even try and suggest what it is you may be good at. If you don't know this yourself then nobody can do this for you. Unfortunately the 3 things you've mentioned are not exactly big money careers unless you either spend many years either paying your dues or going to college for.Is there a reason you are even thinking about supporting yourself....trouble in Paradise?
2007-09-02 07:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go into healthcare those jobs are always in demand and pay well. Since you like animals, maybe you can go to school to be a Veterinarian or Veteranarian technician. Google the carreer that you are interested in and you should be able to find a school in your area that offers the program.
2007-09-02 11:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by iceprncss82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, grow up and take responsibility for your life. You blame your family for you having to drop out and getting pregnant and probably more. Your family didn't tell you to go have sex and get pregnant. Don't count on others for motivation or satisfaction or happiness or validation or help of any kind. Stike out on your own path and make your own decisions and learn through experience.
2007-09-02 07:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your kids should be proud of you, when all else fails and u dont know what to do, talk to God, good luck
2007-09-02 08:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋