sir, Iam 44 n my wife 43 yrs. our is love marriage , she loves me much we are blessed with two childrens. she very sexy in the begining 3 yrs after wards her sexual interest has gone down ,last t3 yrs she not at all interested in sex n she will not allow me to touch her , last 3yrs we didn't have intercourse ,she faithful to me even iam faithful to her we do not have any other relations , she has joint pains n financial problems ,i used to think she is tensed with these problems but now these problems are not there what ever she wants she is getting , now iam unable to understand whats the problem with her , kindly advise me what to do, eaither medically or any advise.
2007-09-02 07:33:45 · 16 answers · asked by abidaskumar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her oestrogen level has fallen. She has to be cajoled and aroused intelligently. When you get an opportunity titillate her clitoris and see whether she gets aroused. Plus, you too have to change a little bit. Are you fit enough? Have you acquired fat around your belly? Are you ejaculating prematurely? You too tone up and take her to new places where she may see new aspects of life and younger people. Both of you have to fight out the monotony she might have suffered silently all these years. With patience and application you will be successful in your endeavour.
2007-09-06 00:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm ever thought it could be due to early menopause ?!
I know it has been 3 years since then but that could of be a lasting side-effect ... if that is not the case then perhaps she lost interest in same old thing and u need to make her excited with some new and creative stuff ... 1st of all u 2 obviously need to bring that conversation up and try clearing up what the could be the issue !!!!
In either case I would suggest like many here to get some marriage/sex concealing from a professional or even perhaps see a doctor !
P.S. Best 0f luck, hope u bang ure wife soon ... lol
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2007-09-03 02:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women start losing interest in sex after 40. In your case that can not be the case as you have mentioned that she was very much interested in sex early days of marriage. During the last three years why you did not talk to her about her refusal to have sex. Joint pains or financial problems are no reason to refuse sex to husband and why as a husband you have kept quiet so far. You have to go deep into the subject speaking to her and ask her to come out why she is refusing to have sex which she had earlier enjoyed very
much. I suggest both of you meet a psychological consultant and sort out the issues. The earlier the better. Have a nice time ahead. Remember that you are not that old to retire from active sex life.
2007-09-02 14:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by JP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, get her medically checked up. Secondly, keep communication continuously open. Thirdly, remain cool, sincere, tolerant, sweet & soft in both words & actions while interacting with her ( the quality being a must for both husband & wife) as she is your wife & not an ordinary woman. Be one sided too even if she is not so as it is your duty to be so & soon she may realise & become so, not a difficult thing. With age you might have stopped for her outings with you at romantic & beautiful places for sightseeings weekly or fortnightly for a change & visit of secluded places where she can tell what is in her heart. Entertainment of wife is continuously necessary. Help her in domestic activities too. Anxiety , stress & phobia because of anything changes woman's behaviour greatly. Sort out that problem carefully. Irrespective of age, love & affection is always required. For that proper background is made. Keep figures of both slim, make body strength of both high & drink both warm milk with honey dissolved in that daily after dinner. After half an hour start foreplay for sex. A man of your age knows well how a woman is aroused. Generally anyone of the two loses interest in sex when the other partner squeezes parts of the body instead of pressing gently which is like injuring muscles badly by punching requiring 2 weeks of recovery to normal. After 40, such injuries may cause longer damages. Care is necessary. Women's emotional, physical & psychological needs never dies but if that happens , a good lady doctor may diagnose it.
2007-09-03 02:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys definitely need to talk and find a solution as to where you want your marriage to be. She may have some horomone problems, so if she saw a doctor and received the proper medication, it may bring her sex drive back. Sex is a huge part of a relationship, because if you are sexually frustrated, you are more likely to snap and argue with each other over silly little matters.
2007-09-02 17:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by lippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that sex is important in a marriage because that brings you two closer together. You can say that she is being faithful but in all reality if she is an attractive and sexy woman I have my doubts that she is. Either she is getting her needs met somewhere else or she really has a mental issue. This is not natural or normal in any way. For whatever reason she is no longer attracted to you sexually and at her age she should be reaching her sexual stride. I hate people that suggest therapy because it is the simple answer and is also the obvious but doesn't really answer the question. I think in this case I would be tempted to have her followed and see what exactly she is up to.
2007-09-02 14:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would say the easiest thing to check first is have her go, and go with her if she wants - to her Ob/gyn. It could be a medical issue. Second, if it is not a medical issue you need to seek couple counseling. Sex drives change - but pain should not be a part of it. And the physical pain could be medical or could be psychological. Just show her care and concern - and be in it for her and for you - and for the intimacy. Good luck!
2007-09-02 15:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by vegasrob89118 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is going on with her....you need to go get some marriage counseling.
before doing that....try bringing her flowers, getting a babysitter to stay with the kids so you two can go out for a peaceful evening dinner together
you might try scheduling her for a massage, or a day at the spa.....if she feels pretty, she will feel attractive for you...and then maybe will want to be intimate.
tell her how good she looks ....touch her more....just hugging touching kissing her gently on her neck.
make sure she knows you love her even after she has had three kids and that you want her still
Give her some money to go buy a new outfit of clothes for your date.....tell her....tonight is for me and you...no kids no worries....just us because you deserve to get out of the house once in a while.
be romantic :o)
2007-09-02 15:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by pink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to go see a doc...99% of the Indian women do loose that sexual interest also if she is taking depression medication that would make her loose her sexual interest.
2007-09-02 21:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to me i cannot advice you but i suggest you that you should talk with her and ask why she is behaving like that. B`coz sex is a very important part of our life. So, it is better that you should understand her and she also need to understand your feelings about the sex. so, talk, talk and talk. Best of luck.
2007-09-04 05:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋