what is going on?? im 13 going on 14. im a guy.and all of the sudden i feel like masturbating like 5 times a day.when i get an erection it wont go away for a prety long time.and now i cant help to look at porn..i know my hormones are raging and my sex drive is high. but is there a way to control myself before im discovered by my parents??please dont laugh. or make harmfull coments.
thnx
2007-09-02 07:00:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Masturbating is normal and harmless, but porn is not! You will get very sick ideas of what sex is supposed to be like if you continue to watch porn. Have someone install a porn blocker on your computer and tell him to NEVER tell you the password. Getting caught by your parents is not the problem; getting brainwashed by that garbage is the problem.
2007-09-02 11:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everything that is happening to you is totally normal, most boys your age look at some kind of porn it is nothing to be ashamed of. As for being discovered by your parents, they more than likely know; don't forget they were your age once.
2007-09-02 07:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by stargazer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you're going through is completely normal but masturbation and looking at porn is not the solution. The feelings you have now will be with you your whole life! Welcome to manhood! However, it is what you do with these feeling that is important. When you grow up and are married, you will be tempted to cheat on your wife...what will you do? The way you deal with these feelings now, will develop future habits that will help you when these stong urges hit later, sometimes by complete surprise.
These feelings are to drive you "outside" of yourself and are not bad. In fact, were it not for these sexual feelings, we might all be very selfish and egotistical. What you need to do is first of all, say "Thank you God for my masculinity!"
Next, each time you feel these urges, get out and talk to someone you trust about them. Don't be afraid. All guys have these feelings and for you to talk about them with your peers or your dad or uncle or some other trusted male will help these feelings to subside.
It's not about "pushing" these feelings away, that would be repression, and they'd come out in strange, even perverted ways. It is better to get them out in the open and realize that you are completely and absolutely normal.
Also, the reason masturbation is wrong is that it drives your sexual impulse to be satisfied solo. It is not for that. You might fall, but each time you do, just try the next time not to masturbate and know that each time you choose to say "no" to the impulse you are excercising the same willpower that will help you as an adult when you must say "no" to them.
As for pornography, Pope John Paul II said the problem with pornography isn't that it shows too much, it is that it shows too little. In other words people become objects, bodies, means to satisfy your sexual urges and they cease being people. That is a perverted and dangerous world view.
Your sexuality and sexual activity (in marriage) is a gift from God. It is normal and even holy, but it can only be so in a committed self-giving, the self-donation we give to the other in marriage. Your sexual drives will help bring you and your wife together but will never be the axle upon which you are bound together. That only comes from the self-giving sacrifice of love. Masturbation and pornography take away our ability to see the other PERSON, the one inside the body. In masturbation, it turns it inward to ourselves.
Welcome to manhood. Don't worry the journey is an exciting one, and one you needn't "suffer" alone. Talk with other guys about it, even joke about it. It is an adventure, if you don't lock it inside and think it is evil. It isn't. God is "retooling" your body for all the adult things you will need to do in the future at every level: mentally, physically and spiritually.
I hope this answer helps you.
God Bless.
2007-09-02 07:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Br. J 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it is not bad to look at porn. u are discovering new things.if u raging for sex come over some time.jkjk!
2007-09-02 07:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by April R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
welcome to the wonders and mysteries of puberty.
Your hormones are screwed up right now.It's normal to get an erection for no reason.
Lock your door for privacy !
2007-09-02 10:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋