my wife of 21 years still doesnt know im gay. i cant keep my eyes off him. (the boss) he is also married and we had great fun last nite. can anyone help me??? what should i do???
2007-09-02 06:55:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell her! it's not your fault, so just put it out there and hope she understands.
2007-09-02 07:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by ashley101-zippedy doo dah! 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Jerry, I just answered your other question.
I thought that you might be gay but ..Anyway.
Don't you think that after taking 21 years of somebody's life you should show them some decency and a minimum of respect.
First ask yourself what would happen if your wife were to ever find out?
What would it do to her, to your marriage?
So, maybe it's better to sit down and talk to her about who you are openly.
Then, if necessary, move on with your life.
But, the way I see it, it's not fair to have your cake and eat it.
You can't use your marriage as cover to do give in your gay tendencies.
YOu are either gay or you are not.
So, talk to your wife, if you do have some affection for her. It'll be hard, and will hurt, but at least, you give a the chance to have a decent exit.
Beside, this might sober you up.
Contemplating the reasons why you'd want to leave your wife in the first place.
So, don't waste any more years of your life, or your wife's.
Make a choice, and because there are some decent gay blokes out there, you're bound to find someone you can have a decent relationship with instead of feeling like you have to just do with a couple of stolen hours and put up with stuff you wouldn't dream of in a gay or heterosexual relationship.
Good luck.
2007-09-02 14:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if you are gay why are you married to a woman? How long have you known you were gay? My advice tell your wife, because from this question and your other she will find out you are gay and that you cheated. A woman knows when something isn't right with her spouse, if she hasn't figured it out yet she will soon. As for your boss,he is your boss. Do you really want to be in that situation?
2007-09-02 14:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by bkdrm41897 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife will be dumb struck, and then homo cidel.
This will devastate her, I don't know what to tell you.
I hope you are practicing safe sex.
I guess the best thing to do is to tell her. If she is mad now think how mad she will be in another year.
Did you marry her knowing that you were gay? Or did you just realize it last nite?
She deserves the truth. Tell her.
Peace
2007-09-02 14:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MMmmmmm I guess if I had read this question first I would have known the answer to the the other question I just answered.
You are playing with fire with both your boss and your wife. I see very expensive divorce on the horizon for you.
2007-09-02 14:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by girlielikesfun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get an aids test and tell your wife so she can take your *** to the cleaners nothing wrong with being gay staying married to someone 21 years and deceiving her you deserve everything she will take from you and trust me any judge in this country will give it all to her
2007-09-02 14:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be married if you have eyes for others. And, if you are gay, it is unfair to lead your wife on like this.
2007-09-02 14:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not know that u are gay before u married ur wife ? You must tell her and i hope she gone not have a trauma .from this.
2007-09-02 14:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by justonpc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you get married know you were gay? Especially since you could have given her AIDS.
2007-09-02 14:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
21 years and she still don't know?whoa.you hide it good huh?.she deserves to know and i hope when you tell her she's understanding of it but i fear she wont be.most women wouldn't be.if it was me and you were telling me after 21 years of making love to me and all,i would think,ok,so how many men has he did it with since our marriage?.its how our minds work,sorry.its not good keeping it a secret and 21 years is a very long time.tell her.
2007-09-02 14:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is your boss gay to?? so your bi or you just got married for show?? pick one and stick to it. you need to tell your wife cause if she finds out another way will hurt her even more than coming from you. be true to yourself and respect her anough to be honest.
2007-09-02 14:09:40 · answer #11 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋