I think my boyfriend wants to have sex with me...i love my boyfriend a lot but i don't want to get pregnant at 17 years old...i mean i would love to have sex with him i just don't want to get pregnant (i've already had a pregnancy scare)...i think he will understand but what do u think???
2007-09-02 06:28:38 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i guess i'm going to have to tell my mom that i'm "sexually active" because she still thinks i'm a virgin...so if i need to get birth control i would need to talk to my mom...do u think i should tell her?
2007-09-02 06:36:47 · update #1
well last time i had sex the condom broke...thats why i was scared i was pregnant...i just don't want that to happen again...i know he doesn't have any stds and i don't either...i'm just scared that something will go wrong again...but this time I won't get lucky!
2007-09-02 06:45:28 · update #2
I think you are smart to wait. Once you start having sex you do it more and more often and increases your chances of pregnancy and stds. If he respects you and wants to really be with you he will wait with you. If he doesnt want to wait then he isnt worth it anyways, you want someone that respects your decisions and respects you.
2007-09-02 06:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by bribri 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Legally your both allowed to have sex.
It is now YOUR decision if you actually want to have sex now, or later in life.
If you decide to have sex with your boyfriend you need contraception - The pill will be a good idea since you don't want to get pregnant. Since you say that you nor your boyfriend have any STDs you can use the pill alone, as that prevents pregnancy but not STDs.
No-one can tell you if you should have sex, that is all your choice. I had sex when I was 15, I felt ready but now looking back I wish I had waited until later in life. If you're still worried about getting pregnant then, you use the pill, and insist that if he is going to shag you then he needs to wear a condom - otherwise no sex.
2007-09-02 07:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only have sex with him if you want to. Tell him if you don't want to, and if he doesn't understand then he is a jackass who only wants sex, and is not worth your time. If you do want to then go for it. Make sure to use condoms and birth control. Don't just use birth control. Condoms help prevent diseases. Not saying your boyfriend cheats on you, but people do tend to be unfaithful, so there is a chance you could get something if you aren't careful. I am 17 too, I have sex, but I am very careful, because like you said, I do not want to be a mama at 17. Pregnancy scares are NOT fun trust me I know.
2007-09-02 06:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by jimis_g_i_r_l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend cares anything at all about you he will understand your feelings and appreciate your concerns. Mutual respect and trust is necessary in any type of relationship. With sexually transmitted diseases as well as the the threat of possible pregnancy, the best protection is abstinance from sex. If you do not wish to abstain, here are sme pointers. 1. Be sure your partner is disease free. Your local health department can test for S.T.D.s free of charge. In particular an AIDs test! 2. Use birth control and talk to a health care proessional about alternative methods of birth control. 3. Condoms used in conjunction with the use of the pill or an anti spermicidal agent are your best protection against pregnancy and unwanted sexual disease.4.Safety is the best advice in any given situation.
2007-09-02 06:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by Fabian F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok if you are going to have sex with him then you need to go and talk to your mom about getting put on the pill i lost my virginity when i was 15 with the guy i was dating and not too long after that we had broke up i was heart broken but then i started dating this other guy and we started having sex we used a condom but sometimes it would break and i would get really scared that i might get pregnant so i finally decided to go talk to my mom about birth control and she decided to take me to the doctor to get put on it after i got put on birth control i felt alot safer but remember that birth control takes a while to kick in and even if you are on the pill you still need to use a condom if you are not ready then wait and if cares anything about you then he will understand and if he trys to force you then get rid of him oh something else i just thought of you could tell him that your not ready (even if you are ready) and see how he reacts that way you will know what kind of person he is before you do it this way you wont end up hurt
2007-09-02 08:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by ivy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you do need to tell you boyfriend that. Make sure he knows about your previous pregnancy scare situation. If he loves you, then he will respect that. If you do want to have sex with him though, but you are highly concerned about getting pregnant, make sure you use a condom, and are on some birth control. Nothing can be safer then that. And, just tell him that you need to be comfortable and ready. Good luck !
2007-09-02 06:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by brittany 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you are in love with one another, having sex should be discussed before you go ahead and do it, talking about it will make you feel better and will also make him understand your worries. As for contraception use it everytime, use a condom and also get some birth control pills from the dr too, this is the most adult and sensible thing to do.
2007-09-02 06:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am against any sex outside the confines of a committed relationship.
That being said, if you're going to do it anyway, do it right. TWO forms of birth control. Do you know if he's clean? Are you? (of STDs). Get on the pill yourself, you can use jel or foam lots of stuff OTC at drug stores. You can never tell whether he's really clean, so don't go oral, and make him wear a condom.
The pull-out method doesn't work.
The rhythm (right day of month) method doesn't work.
The peanut butter method doesn't work.
The I'm just playing around no penetration method doesn't work.
Be safe, sweetie. We not only don't want you pregnant, we don't want you sick either.
Protect yourself so you can reach all the dreams in your heart, and when you're ready, add the committed relationship and babies.
TX Mom
Not an expert
2007-09-02 06:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't let him talk you into something you do not want to do. However, use condoms to prevent pregancy.
Also, it might help you to learn more about your cycle. When I was trying to get pregnant, I went to a website that tracked my cycle and told me which days were my most fertile. You need to type in the dates of your periods, and it gives you a rough estimate of which days would be best to conceive.
Knowing which days are your most fertile days can help you AVOID getting pregnant. (This is not 100% foolpoof)
Again, only have sex with him if you WANT to. If you don't want to, tell him where to go. Girlpower!!
Use condoms!
2007-09-02 06:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by c'estmoi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone knows sex definitely can change a relationship. If you both are ready to be intimate then talking with him about your concerns about pregnacy shouldnt be difficult. birth control is not fool proof,, there are always risks but you can definitely prevent it.I think it is highly responsible of you to consider the possible outcome of sex,, I wouldnt have sex with him if you werent ready for a worst case situation. You might cosider seeing what forms of birth control are available for you and how affective they are. condoms with birth control is a great idea!!
2007-09-02 06:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by h_widick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to get on birth control (make sure u have gone through at least two cycles before having sex)and use condoms and with those two methods used at the same time everything should be ok
2007-09-02 09:38:50 · answer #11 · answered by Bookybell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋