My ex bf and I broke up over 2 months ago after a long-term relationship. He cheated on me and I never got over it, so we mutually decided it wasn't working out. However, after a vacation away from home, he came back deciding he wanted me back. I had moved on by then and was dating someone new and was happy with the way things were and didn't want to go back to all that bitterness and anger I felt with him. When he found out I was seeing someone, he couldn't handle it. For the past 6 weeks or more, he has called and emailed constantly begging me to come back. I said no repeatedly. He started calling me at work when I wouldn't answer at home or on my cell. Then, in the past 2 weeks, I have stopped all contact whatsoever. So now he has found out the phone number and email address for the guy I'm seeing and has started emaling and calling him telling him things to try to make him stop seeing me. This is getting crazy. There has been no physical threats, but is this harassment?
2007-09-02 06:14:07 · 12 answers · asked by Mel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
before you take that step -call your local police and ask them to go take a visit to his house and have a conversation about his behavior. Sometimes, just the threat of legal action can put an end to it.
2007-09-02 06:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is harrassment and both you and your boyfriend have every right to call the cops on this nut job. You can get a restraining order, but you really do have to have some sort of threat involved and I'll be honest hun, you must have heard on the news dozens of times how women are killed or hurt even under the protection of a restraining order. My ex was abusive to me in my marriage. I didn't get a restraining order altho I threatened to. When he found out, he sort of stopped (and I say sort of very mildly because he never stopped being a jerk...still is to this day). If the calls and emails continue, start taping them and print out the emails. Make sure you keep a paper trail. This is very important if the calls or emails become threatening or violent. You will want to prove this has been going on for quite some time. Invest in a small hand-held recorder. When he calls, hold the recorder to the phone and recorder his call. If he leaves a nasty message on your machine, record it. Make sure you are doing this. It is very important. At this point however, you can call the cops but it will just be domestic squabble or harrassment and unless you press charges, there is very little you can do until it becomes threatening. Good luck!
2007-09-02 13:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by kikio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there have been physical threats or assaults, you will not be able to obtain a restraining order. If he does threaten you physically you should either tape the telephone call ( which you can do as long as you a party in the conversation ) or copy the email. Unfortunately, unless he threatens you or takes action against you....the best you can do is report this harassment to the phone company ( but they usually don't take much action & just tell you to change your phone # to a non-published # which is a good idea ) or if he makes any threats over the internet you should report the matter to federal authorities ( such as the FBI )
2007-09-02 14:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very much so. That guy needs to grow up and realize that he messed up and can't have you because you don't want him. I would try for a restraining order by later this week. Let him know that if he doesn't cut it out you are going to bring the law into this. That may scare him into stopping. I hope everything ends up for the best - Good Luck!!
2007-09-02 13:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by xXx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately harassment. get the restraining order and move away for a time.
This dude is trouble, do you have any Big friends? I would get someone to go over and have a nice talk with him, fist to fist, uh I mean face to fist, uh I mean face to face, yea that's it. But I would choose your biggest friend someone that is intimidating and mean. Maybe hire the school bully or the local Samoan to go and have a nice chat and tell him to STOP! The police might be able to help too, but too often girls like you end up dead.
2007-09-02 13:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by beachbum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not only harassment but it is stalking. Go to the police (GO do not CALL) Tell them everything, that you have moved on to a new relationship but this guy continues to bother you, to the point of bothering your new boyfriend. He is obsessed and people like that can be very dangerous.
2007-09-02 15:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is harassment. Go file for a restraining order on Tuesday.
2007-09-02 13:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is harrassment. Save any messages he sends to you or your current boyfriend as evidence. Go see about filing a restraining order.
2007-09-02 14:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is harassment. Go to the police and see if there is anything they can do to help. If they can't help you I think you can sue him. Save all the phone calls and e-mails, you'll need them as proof.
2007-09-02 13:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get a restraining order at once, not only from you, but your current boyfriend. Do not allow him to do that to you. Its over period.
2007-09-02 23:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋