insecure about his/her hair and skin and lacks the confidence to try to make new friends, like sit at a nice table with several classmates their own age? Let's say he or she is a sophmore and was new as a freshman in high school, and only has a few friends. Btw this child is really good looking, but is devasted for they felt like it was the time that they truly looked good but bam! a haircut (just bangs but felt like they used to look better without) and some acne. What do you think? It is right to just let the child be despise their complains (hopefully they learn in time) or help them out?
2007-09-02 06:06:50 · 12 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Like people can only overcome their fears and insecurities on their own.
2007-09-02 06:17:06 · update #1
First the child needs to know that they are loved and special to the family. Hopefully as a parent we have talked to our child and give them many opportunities to succeed at home long before high school. As they grow up they have to have a great family bond to get them through all the pressures of school. The child needs to know that they are ok and they matter as a person. This is important as parents to teach our children. If we haven't taught them this by the time that they are in High School the peer pressure could be devistating however You can still help. I used to have a low self esteem but I listen to tapes that helped me feel great as a person. You could listen to self help skills. One that I have used is How to build High Self Esteem from Jack Canfield. It is a great tool to realize how our self talk is important to building higher self esteem. You are a worth wild person. You deserve success. You deserve Self confidence. It is an older tape series but go to the Library and choose one that you like and want your child to hear. It will help them to feel better. I found out when I liked myself I was more outgoing, not as worried about what others thought because I liked myself.
If the child wants could they get involved in a group that could get them more new friends? Does the child want help like inviting friends over? or do they want to be left alone? I found that I am not worried about how many friends my child has as long as I have taught them to like being themself. One of my children is more outgoing than the other it depends on their personality.
One way of helping with acne and having fun is by going to a Spa Party. I went to a spa party and then my daughter had a spa party with her friends. The spa party is with Beauty Control Products which cleaning her face with these products works for us. The party was a fun time to relax and have someone give them a facial mask, hand rub, foot soaking. My child enjoyed doing it with her friends.
www.beauticontrol.com That website will help you find a consultant near you if you want to go to or have a spa party.
In September you can get a deal of products by becoming a consultant for $99; However you can ask about their facial products if you want which would be a cheaper route. Maybe your daughter will be the next great sales person. You can do whatever you want but it works for us.
2007-09-02 07:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by 4 eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first question that comes to mind is, "What's going on at home?" Children don't just magically get low self esteem.
Classes, counseling, karate, and the likes won't change the way a child is if their home life is a wreck.
The first thing I would do with this kid is get involved with some projects, and take an active role in their school. Self assurance comes from the ability not to fear trying new things. That's learned by DOING and finishing what they started. Combine that with the attitude that the outcome doesn't make and difference, it's the ability to be proud of what you did, and the knowledge that you gave it your all that matters.
Go out and buy them some acne medication, get them a decent set of clothes, and above all else PARENT them without criticism. Give this child unconditional love, and a reasonable amount of discipline, and chances are, they'll blossom.
2007-09-02 15:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by wentfishing2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. It's very normal at this day and age. I'm a teen myself and I know it's easy for people to just say "get involved with the school more and they'll be fine" but it's not always that easy especially for someone with self esteem issues who just moved to a new school last year. so i'd say try a youth group!- they go on trips and stuff and it's a great way to meet new people. hope i could be a help. :)
2007-09-02 15:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you talk with your child. Don't make a big deal out of the hair, it will grow back. But teenagers are so darn hard to get through to, aren't they?
Just be there for support, hugs, affection, laughter. Ask about acne washes and if she/he wants to try some. Let her/him know you will try your best to make his/her life as comfortable as possible, if only he/she wil come and talk with you.
2007-09-02 13:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a parent but i'm just a teen,the same thing happen to me,its not really that hard to overcome this problem,just ask him\her whats wrong,if he\she didnt respond dont give up,try asking,he\she will come by themself and share his\her problem with open-heart when it feels its the right time,btw,the hair will grow back,hope it helps..peace out ^_^
2007-09-02 13:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by `*MiMi*` 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry about. Your child will adjust with time. I would suggest not getting too involved, its better for them to work something like this out on their own.
2007-09-02 13:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would consider that I have a child who likes to worry -- to obsess. I would consider that I have a child who could obsess about many things, but has chosen to obsess about their looks.
I'd encourage the child to find something else to think about. Or something else to do.
2007-09-02 14:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is just teenage woes, don't worry about it. Try to talk to him/her and build up their confidence. Is just a phase of awkwardness, they'll get through it.
2007-09-02 14:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by cynical 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is talk to her. She needs to know that most teenagers feel that way if they show it or not. Also tell her experiences you had growing up. She needs to be able to relate to you in order to talk to you about her feelings.
2007-09-03 01:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Brook E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self-esteem classes. also they can work on their self-esteem at home by complimenting theirself in the mirror. but work with them on this everyday. other kids can be cruel and say cruel things. i have 3 i have to work on this with them from time to time. they have even put in nself-esteem classes in their schools.
2007-09-02 13:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by Gladys C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋