we dated and i had a child for him, he left me 2 marry another girl,and now he says he doesnt wanna talk bout our child, and he still comes around tells me he cares but i shouldnt blackmail him with d child, should i tell d wife?
2007-09-02 06:04:16 · 22 answers · asked by halima 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you protecting the child or the guy? Now you have your answer...YES
2007-09-02 06:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by roncj88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to Social Services and ask how to handle this. He should be paying you child support. I'm sure he doesn't want to talk about the child. That would mean he would have to have a relationship with the child and it will likely end his marriage. No wife wants to deal with another woman and her husband's child from that affair.
2007-09-02 06:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Julie H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was getting involved with a SCUM... he ditches you AND his child to marry someone else and does NOT want to obviously have much to DO with that child unless it's on HIS TERMS.... Well, you didn't create that child all by yourself you know and legally, he IS responsible financially until the child is at LEAST 18 years old and SHOULD be paying you CHILD SUPPORT...... PLUS, he is keeping a secret from his WIFE by hiding his child from her... not being fair to ANYONE in this situation ESPECIALLY HIS OWN CHILD... It is NOT up to you to tell his wife, but if I were you, I would contact legal aid who would handle your case for free if you cannot afford to pay... and get his butt into court and have COURT ORDERED CHILD SUPPORT sent to you to help you take care of that child...... that man's wife isn't going to do anything FOR you....just work through an attorney----his wife WILL find out and it won't be YOU getting into it with her---it will be THE COURTS!!!!
2007-09-02 06:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That may take a long, long time. To her childish mind everything was just fine and dandy, a perfectly happy mommy-daddy-n-me family until The Wicked Witch of the West came along and ruined everything. If only you'd melt or something, then her world would be perfect again. If your husband is cooperative, engineer a few scenes where you stand up for her when her dad is harsh or strict. Then she may come to accept you as a potential ally instead of despising you as pure evil. But don't count on it.
2016-05-19 04:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but what a jerk. why did you have a child just for him, a child is brought into this world for a mum and dad to care for him\her also what would you benefit from by telling the new wife apart from more unhappiness in the childs life. you and the child should just get on with your lifes now and if he does not want any part in the childs life then cut all contact and move on. if he saying he still cares then he should come clean himself to this new wife if he wants any part in the babys upbringing.
you will not gain anything from telling her apart from trouble.
ltell him if he still wants to come round and see his child then he must come clean himself. if not just cut all ties with him
good luck
2007-09-02 06:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adults need to handle this maturely. No blackmail, no secret meetings. He should pay child support, and have visitation rights. He should be a responsible father toward this child.
As for the wife telling. That's his problem. Your is financial support and a father to your child.
2007-09-02 06:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by cockroachdavis 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to tell the wife... what you need to do is go after his butt for support, etc. She'll find out soon enough when money starts going to you to help care for the child.
Let him bury himself with his wife. There is no need for you to get in the middle. You need to work on being a good mom to your child and doing what is best for your child.
2007-09-02 06:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do what's right for your child. He's the father and needs to take responsibility. Go to child support services and get their advice. His wife is not your concern. Your only concern is your child. You're no longer together and he married someone else.
2007-09-02 06:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You mean this man isn't giving any kind of child support?
You should not care about him or his wife....you should be concerned only with your child best interest. Have a paternity test done and ask for child support. Let him deal with his wife.
2007-09-02 06:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go file for and get your child support so that your child is taken care of. Leave his wife alone; she's not relevant to this issue.
2007-09-02 06:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see from your question you have a lot of symphathy for your child,does he pay support,does he provide insurance.If the child decides to blackmail the father so be it but I doubt it.I can see how you got yourself into the mess
2007-09-02 06:12:02 · answer #11 · answered by stones 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋