I am going through a divorce. We are on speaking terms & still love each other but are not right for each other. How do I get on with my life? How do i stop from calling him daily? No kids. No infidelity in the relationship. He just can't keep a job and does not get along wth my family.
2007-09-02 06:00:09 · 6 answers · asked by kimhomeloans 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What are some things that you like to do? Do you share common interests with your friends? Go and do the things that you enjoy. Trust me it is really hard to get over someone that you love. In or out of marriage, love can be painful. In relationships we sometimes find a comfort zone and when our other half leaves for one reason or the other we feel lost. We feel alone and we long for the safety they once provided.
Spend time with your family, go out with your friends. Maybe look for a local group where you can network. Find people that share your interests. Right now is not the time for you to look for a new love so just make new friends. In time it will get better and while you may never loose your feelings for him you will see that you are not needing him.
I really wish you the best of luck. Trust me I can relate to what you are going through. It is hard but there is nothing that we go through that we can't survive. Who knows, as time passes things may work better than you ever imagined. Stay positive, live for you and always smile, even if you don't feel like it.
2007-09-02 07:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by homeri14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you thank God there are no children. We all make mistakes, but you have to decide if this guy really isn't right for you then what is there to hold onto? Sounds like you both know it wasn't meant to be either that or you both are not mature enough to be married and keep a marriage going.
Don't run out and date someone else, just live on your own. Get yourself straightened out, work on becoming a better person, a wiser person. Decide what you want out of life and shoot for those goals.
And don't forget, life isn't over when you divorce.. it's a new chance to start over and learn from your mistakes. Make the most of it.
2007-09-02 13:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. When you make that type of commitment to each other it is hard to let it go. Your blessed to still be on speaking terms with him, but you have to redefine your relationship with him. He is still your friend. Get some counseling for yourself. Mourn the lose of your marriage and understand that you will find someone who wants the same things that you want for the future.
2007-09-02 13:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by godisloveperiod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kimhomeloans, Well hon as rough as it may be I think for the long run that you have made a good choice ! Just stop calling him by preocupying your mind. Through work or a hobby, or what is your special talent that you like to do ?
2007-09-02 13:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more time with your family, and if and when you start to date, find a guy who is family type or a family man....
2007-09-02 13:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bayna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to stay friends but please get on with your new life. Get out and meet new people..
2007-09-04 08:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋