My husband has to take classes near his home town for his job, he went down there for a four day class and stayed ten days, six days longer than his classes to hang out with his buddies and party. We just moved to a big city, I'm 7 months pregnant and I'm terrified of everything, and we have some really creepy neighbors, is it wrong of me to think he has a responsibility to be home with me. I'd understand a few days, but not so long. Is it okay for a man to do this?
2007-09-02 05:43:09 · 17 answers · asked by Jeennie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he needed a lil vacation to unwind before the baby comes. Give him a break unless he makes a habit of it.
2007-09-02 06:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While I don't think it's wrong for him to have spent some time hanging out with friends and doing a little partying, I definitely find it wrong that he spent so much time doing it....creepy neighbors or not, six extra days was just too much.
Also, from experience, after this baby is born, you two need to make sure you find time to spend alone together (not just sexual) and also time for just you, or just him. That doesn't mean days (or almost a week!), but just a few hours. Hopefully he's not the type of guy who thinks you have to just be wife and mother, while he can still be out having fun with the guys a lot.
If he thinks there's nothing wrong with his actions, ask him if sometime after the baby is born, would it be okay for you to go on a week vacation without him or the baby responsibility. Not that you'd want to, but I bet he wouldn't like you going off for 6 days just to party.
2007-09-02 06:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by virtuouskelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he out partying regularly or is this a one-time thing? Does he not get to see these friends any more because of the move? If it's rare that he does something like this, I'd try not to be too upset. Everyone needs some time to do their own thing. Now, if you were near your due date, then I'd say he has no right, he should be there with you. But that's not the case. Enjoy some alone time & go out & explore the city. Maybe you'll meet some new people you really like!
2007-09-02 05:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by PrincessJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be more important than out partying with his friends! He is acting selfish and immature and not thinking about his responsibility to you and his unborn child. Hanging out with his friends and putting himself into temptation to be enticed and acting single is not being responsible to his marriage and commitment to you. Your emotional and physical well being should be the most important thought in his mind and getting straight home to you after the schooling and thats the bottom line!! He is not being right to you here and I would be very disapointed in him feeling he had a right to do that and and not care to be home with me afterwards. I would say Hell No!! When he returns home I would sit him down and tell him that is behavior is unacceptable to you and the next time he chooses to do something like this that you will not tollerate it! Make him accountable for seeing the wrong in it and let him know that it hurt you very much and that he is lucky you didn't pack up and leave while he was gone over it all. I would set him straight about what is acceptable and not acceptable to his behavior in the future and stand on your word!! You take care and best wishes on your new baby.
2007-09-02 06:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bullshet. That's what I say. How mean of him to leave you scared and pregnant. I really can understand how your feeling. Partying is for single men or women . His momma is calling and he best get home. If he don't , what are you going to do ? Start taking that crap now and well as the story goes you always will. I think its cold and insensitive of him. He should be there with you excited and happy and securing his family. Self centered and absorbed . Pray and hold on to the lord . The lord will protect you. The lord also knows what he is doing . I will pray for you and wish I could help you more .
2007-09-02 06:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by margo322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 00:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was at home and you took off for four days to work and tacked another six days for partying with your girlfriends while he was siitng in the house with 60 extra pounds on his body would he be okay with that? I doubt it, this is not acceptable and if you need time to party for one last hurrah, give me a break that is pathetic. I feel bad for your child that he or she will have this as a father to look up to. Good Luck.
2007-09-02 06:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he should have come home. However, did he ask if it was o.k. with you? Did you say it was all right? Also, sometimes this happens when guys are afraid, and they sort of freak out. Women can't really do this, as they are already lugging the baby around. If you don't like his behavior, you need to call him and tell him so. If he blows you off, then he is wrong.
2007-09-02 07:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I can see maybe stay for 1 day longer 2 party, but not no 6 days.
2007-09-02 06:46:57 · answer #9 · answered by joe v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ma'am! He needs to be at home massaging your feet and back. A few days is okay, but not 10. He has lost his mind. I believe he is being very, very, very insensitive to your needs. This part of the pregnancy is very important. And with you near the end of the pregnancy, I just can't imagine my husband being gone like that. Just take care of yourself....
2007-09-02 13:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
chances are your pregnancy is healthy and there isn't a concern about him being near you for emergencies?You gave permission originally and maybe it's his last hurrah before becoming a daddy? If its innocent guy stuff don't worry-get your toes done and chill over a good book. You will have way more important things to worry about in 2 months.
2007-09-02 05:51:27 · answer #11 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋