Should a man put his wife first in front of other people and things before kids are involved?
2007-09-02 05:37:49 · 12 answers · asked by Jeennie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love this man very much, and he loves me very much too, but he has a lot of people in his life that have been really close to him and sometimes I feel like he puts them in front of me, and a lot of times, it is himself he puts first, I love him very much and he's good to me, I understand everybody has their faults and I married him knowing his selfishness, but should I talk to him about this or what should I do?
2007-09-02 05:46:12 · update #1
Yes, she should. Just as a husband should come first to his wife!
After kids are in the picture, the kids come first.
2007-09-02 05:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely a wife should come completely first. Even after kids are in the picture, but especially before. After all, he vowed to "forsake all others and cleave to you," which doesn't just mean other partners. Sounds like he's got a lot of interests, which legitimately can intrude temporarily, but he's got to make it clear that he realizes you two are an "us" now, and plan and act with that as the assumption. It takes some guys a long time to learn this, though, so do mention it now, and be patient as you both try to help him put it into practice. Good luck!
2007-09-02 12:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you married him knowing his selfishness. Why do people think they can change their mates once they get married. You married him for him and I doubt he change. You can talk to him and see. You can't blame him if he doesn't change, you never put your foot down.
The husband and wife comes before the children (after the kids are in the picture). If the husband and wife aren't happy then the children aren't happy. Love for a child is totally different from love for a spouse.
2007-09-02 13:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, talk with him. Express your concerns. And yes, a man should always put God 1st and his wife is next, even your kids. And the same goes for the wife, God than husband over anything. A really good book I am reading right now is THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE. I am learning more and more about our roles of husband and wife just by reading this book. It will help you. It has for me.
2007-09-02 16:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! Just the same as a woman should put her husband first! Marriage means 'one'. Nothing comes before the marriage except for God.
2007-09-02 12:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always.
Sounds like he had been single for a long time when you came along. He already had an important circle of friends and family. Yes you should talk to him about it in a non-confrontational way. Don't accuse him of anything he will be defensive and not listen. Always talk about how YOU feel and not about what he does.
Good luck.
2007-09-02 12:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you got married, you formed a partnership, financial, emotional etc. Yes, you have to be there for each other, otherwise whats the point? And if you haven't learned to support one another, watch out when the kids arrive because they will find it easy to divide and conquer
2007-09-02 12:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by Newlife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely.
2007-09-02 12:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Tyra99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, a wife or husband should never be second to other people, or anything.
2007-09-02 12:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course. her feelings and needs should always be considered first.
2007-09-02 12:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋