I mean what does the future hold for a gay couple?
What will happen when we get old?
What are the chances we can adopt a child?
We love each other to death but I have these questions....and ifyou can share some other things I'll appreciate it..
I'm 20, he's 18 and we're already having long-term plans
2007-09-02 04:50:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I was gay married for 18 wonderful years to the most wonderful man I have ever known. When he died suddenly of course I was devastated, but the main thing is that those were undoubtedly the happiest years of my life, so far anyway.
We stood by each other through the good times and the bad. The good times were twice as good; and the bad were only half as bad.
We both had successful careers, and lovely happy home in the suburbs and enjoyed the better things in life shall we say. Yes we had the world "by the kinookies". And suddenly it was all gone.
But you know the most important thing we shared true love and genuine happiness and I wouldn't trade a single one of those days for the world................
Always remember that when the end time comes. which it does for all of us, that we regret only what we did not do.
Go for it, and look at it as a great adventure.
God bless you both.
2007-09-02 05:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mezmarelda 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the answer to all of those questions is kind of up in the air at this point. I think you will be able to marry him - America is coming closer and closer to accepting that (and some states already have). Adopting a child may be more difficult for you. But it's been done before, and if you really want to do that you can find a way. If you really love each other, you can find a way to make it work out for you. However, give it a couple of years. Many couples as young as you have big plans, but then decide they're not as compatible as they thought. If you're still happy and together a year or two from now, then go for it. Good luck!
2016-04-02 23:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has the same fears when they get married. I don't know, though, how different it is for a gay couple. Perhaps you should see a lawyer or a counselor or somebody who knows the particulars for gays. Don't forget that no matter how much in love you are now that sort of intensity will pass into a deeper, quieter kind of love. Don't think love is gone, it's just changed. I think lots of couples get scared by that. Also, you will have to work at it. It's harder than it seems. Congratulations!
2007-09-02 05:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Number One -- good for you.
Number Two -- I've raised two children, although I didn't get them until their early teens. However, statistically gay couples have almost as many children as straight ones. Adoption is one option, surrogacy is another. When you get old, you get old. We aren't old yet, but for our 15th anniversary Jonathan wrote a song "As the Crows Settle In" -- relating to our aging together.
If you love each other and can make the transition from romantic love to enduring love, then the same future awaits you that awaits everyone else -- with or without marriage.
Kindest thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-09-02 05:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations on being in love! I think that over time things will only get better and better in terms of rights for gay people. No one can know for sure what the future holds but your best bet in the coming years is to move to a state that gives you decent rights like Mass. and then live your lives like anyone else would. Good luck!
2007-09-02 04:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle118 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
hey! congratulations! i think the future looks good for you guys! u both love each other and it seems like ur realistic. there are lots of things to consider when getting married: where ur going to live, do u want kids, ect. try not to let the fact that ur marrying a guy be the thing that stops all of that arranging and figuring out to stop happening. society needs to realize that people aren't living in the 19th century anymore and there are going to be people who like the same sex. just stay positive and try not to get frustrated over people who aren't supportive of your situation.
good luck!
2007-09-02 04:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by Megs 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For one thing , stop worring so much about the future . Enjoy your time now , and when these problems show up the both of you can face them together then . Good luck and wish you both a happy future together .
2007-09-02 04:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by kennyt9201 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of your sexual orientation, you are extremely young to be making long-term plans.
In my experience, those plans never work out for the people who make them that early.
2007-09-02 05:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
gay marriage is not recognized in most states
you would have to live in a state that does recognize it
but you are both very very young to be thinking about lifetime commitments
2007-09-02 04:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratualtions to you both. . . I hope you two have a long happy life together!
2007-09-02 05:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋