She is caught by total surprize. Not only that he has cheated, but with another man ! She was kept clueless by his cheating life style.
2007-09-02 04:09:47 · 14 answers · asked by woodster 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Betrayal is betrayal. I know some guys out there will try to make it sound like coming home to find their wife in bed with another woman is a GOOD thing, but cheating is cheating no matter how you slice or dice it. Let me also make it clear that it's not cheating if you know about it, approve of it, and participate in it too. But doing ANYTHING behind your spouses back is cheating. Doesn't matter if it's with a woman or a man.
2007-09-02 04:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me, I wouldn't be so worried about the sex of the person my spouse cheated with, but by the fact that he cheated! It doesn't matter if you are gay, straight or bisexual, when you promise fidelity, you should be faithful!
Its a very old story. A gay or bi guy gets married. Then, he decided that he can't go without sex with a same-sex partner, so he cheats. Wife finds out and loses her grip. Drama ensues.
We have a "bathhouse" style anonymous gay sex place nearby and one a bit farther away. They both are listed as men only gym's. You can drive by any given day and see lots of guys going in and out with wedding rings on their fingers. I had a friend who used to go there. He says that a lot of the men there are married and go so that they can indulge their desire for same-sex sex without their wives finding out. The wives think they are at an all male club and don't worry because they know their spouses would never do something with another guy. Ahhh, to be that naive!
2007-09-02 11:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my bf said if i ever cheat,it better be with another woman and i feel the same way that i'd rather be cheated on with a man.at least then you know it's because of the other person's "curiousity" and it isn't you.. But even then, it isn't right,though. If someone is confused about their sexuality,they should be up front with their partner in the beginning.Some people actually wouldn't mind if their lover "experimented" with someone of the same sex,so long as they knew about it because then it's less about hurting the one you're with and more about just trying to figure out who you are. But to sleep with someone behind your lover's back is still cheating,regardless of the gender of the person you're sleeping with, and the fact that the man's sexuality was kept a secret too, it does make it worse because it's twice as deceitful. If he knew he was confused,or whatever,he should've been honest about it in the beginning.
2007-09-02 11:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the woman would be more affected by this regardless of the gender of the person her husband cheated with. He has made a decision (cheating) that has destroyed her trust. Trust should be the foundation any relationship is built on. He may feel guilt from it, but it was his decision to cheat...it's not like affairs "just happen" regardless of what people say.
2007-09-02 11:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Starshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she would be more effected.
First we are not just talking betrayal of the flesh, but of the heart.
For him to have a secret like that and not to share it with her and then to have acted on his impulse is not only worse but I would say a deal breaker.
The trust would never be able to reestablished and now she will not only be wondering if that busty little red head caught his eye but if the smooth talking built guy did too.
By the way clueless does not mean she was blind and dumb, it only means the man was a sneaky *******.
2007-09-02 11:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by honeykoen1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you doing a survey?
Women get a lot more emotional in a sit. like this .I think its the gender influence, being the sperm reciever. The fact that she was thrown over for another man would hit her the hardest. Had it been another woman she may have understood the attraction.
2007-09-02 12:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard a show on this lately and alot of gay men get married and hide behind marriage. I think it's sad. But if my mans gonna cheat on me, i'd rather it be a man. i can't compete cause I don't have a ****.hehe
2007-09-02 11:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG.......she's likely to never get over that...Cheating is bad, but a man cheating with another man........come on.......
2007-09-02 11:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband cheated on me with another woman....if he would of cheated on me with another man it would of been less painful. I would not have spent 2 years blaming myself for not being pretty enough, sexy enough, funny enough or young enough.
2007-09-02 11:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a cheating.Is the same effect.
2007-09-02 11:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋