My husband was diagnosed with incurable cancer and wants to travel the world...Please read?

Question

Friday morning, my husband and I found out that he has incurable cancer and will be lucky to make it through Christmas. We are both doctors at a local hospital, and he asked if I had any desire to quit work and us (me and him) travel the world for a couple months(its something he’s always wanted to do and we always said we would after we retired). I would absolutely love to, but we have 5 kids (all are out of the house as my husband and I both are in our late 50s) and I worry that they will be uspet about not being able to spend there fathers last few months with him. Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks

Answer 1

I am very sorry to hear of your misfortune. This is one of those situations that is not easy to face and a question not easily answered. Since I don't know your children, or you or your husband. It is hard to say what is or what is not the best thing to do.

However if my Dad, (who is 55) came down with an incurable cancer and he wanted to travel the world before he died, I would have to honor his wishes. No matter how it made me feel. I am Daddy's little girl, even at 27. And I would still have to say that my Father's last wishes are up to him to decide, and for me to honor. I would miss him greatly. I would however hope that as he got near the end, he would come back and let me say goodbye. However, it would make me happy to know that he was living out his dream.

I'm not sure if this helps you at all. Perhaps you might deal with any resentment after your husband passes by attending grief counseling with your children? Just a thought.

Answer 2

First of all, I would really like to express how sorry I am for you. I cried a little when I read your message.

I would call a family meeting, and explain the whole situation to your children. Ask them to answer honestly whether they would mind. It's going to be a tug-of-war in their minds, because they're torn between their desire to spend quality time with their father, and the will to let their father do what he really wants to do. Maybe you can reach a compromise: every child plans a couple of days of quality time before you depart on your journey?

Six months after we discovered my mother had a brain tumor, she died. Honestly speaking, I'm so glad I had those six months to come to terms with it. But then again, if she had expressed a desire to go anywhere, I would've love to let her go. I even encouraged her to go on a trip, just her and my father, but her treatment kept her in the country.

I wish you all the best, a lot of courage, strength and happy moments still to come.

Answer 3

In the first place I'd rebuke the cancer in the name of Jesus because only God decides what is incurable. It is the Lord who heals and cancer has been healed by God many times.

I would contact Henry Wright at Pleasant Valley Church in Thomaston, GA 1-706-646-2074. He wrote a book "A More Excellent Way" and many people have been cured by the Lord at his Deliverance Ministry and cured of cancer. His book is very much medical science and spiritual deliverance by Jesus Christ.

You are accepting his fate as man knows it, but it is God who gives and sustains life. Cancer comes from sin and when sin is removed the disease leaves.

Proverbs 26:2 "a curse without a cause does not come." Cancer is a curse. You husband needs deliverance.

I would never accept a diagnosis of cancer as fatal without consulting the Lord for my life.

Colon cancer can be nothing but deeply rooted in bitterness and slander with the tongue.

Liver cancer can be nothing but deeply rooted in fornication or adulterous affairs.

Hodgkins and Leukemia - deep rooted bitterness coming from unresolved rejection by a father.

Prostate Cancer - coming out of anger, guilt, self-hatred, and self-bitterness.

There are spiritual roots to diseases as declared by God's law and His Holy Bible.

Our hearts are being tried. God is seeking men's hearts to see if there would be any that would seek Him so He may show Himself strong on their behalf.

I am trying to save your husband's life by directing him to the Lord who heals. Believe what I say and seek the Lord and call Henry Wright.

Answer 4

hello..please excuse my american but I live in italy.I think that you should explain your children that they will have an entire live to do whatever the like to,but theri father have only one last chance to make his wish become real,so they could only wish you a good trip and have fun.Of course,it is not really fun because there is also the conscience that at the end of that trip everithing will change.If his desire is to see the world before ding you should do your best to join him and try to keep the thought of dead very far away from present,by sharing incredible love and closeness.I wish you an inforgottable trip.

Answer 5

I`d say go have a wonderful time it`s what your husband wants.Just make sure he is back for xmas with the kids..

Answer 6

have that be part of your trip visit each one and hold each other tight and keep saying i love you..... say things that should not go unsaid.....