What do you think about this person's story?

Question

Nah...I don't believe that. Many parents aren't there for their kids when in need of comfort or advice or reassurance. They expect an ideal child who has no problems and does not cause them any them any trouble. I remember when I put my trust in my parents. Things didn't seem okay, and I wanted them to help me feel better--but to them my problems were trivial. In truth, my mom told me she was disappointed in me and that I was stupid--and only a bull would be so stupid to even think that way. She also called me a demon. I'm sure that there are other parents whose true devotion would prove that they truly have put forth their sweat and tears. That's just the way the world is--but it takes wisdom and understanding to accept that, know how to handle it, and move on past it.


Despise things, I appreciate my parents for their love--but nothing else. Other than that, I really don't have anything to thank them for. Since they weren't there for me, I went out and seeked my own answers and gain

and gained wisdom on my own. I love the person who I am today, but I felt like I parented myself. Btw I'm 17. But they try their best, and there are qualities that make them good parents, despite not being there for me emotionally . I think at this point they can't be better parents, even though I see some effort from my mom. However, right now, I have so much wisdom that I don't need to come to my parents with my problems, because I realize which ones are real and have enough intelligence to know how to handle them on my own, but I can't help thinking that they are somewhat lacking...I know for a fact that my parents would never have changed in being there for me, but I guess I love them.

Answer 1

I think it's the typical story from a 17 year old and remember thinking along the same lines myself at that age. It's a time of immense transition and allot of fear.

Wisdom comes not only of experience, but time as well. Many things are important to people of that age range, but, when the grow older, realize the maybe Mom and Dad were right, they ARE trivial, although at the time they may not seem so. With that in mind, I see parents and people in general treating children and teens like they were the anti-christ. If dealing with an adult, their tone and attitudes would be dramatically different. There is no need for words that cut, those wounds are the hardest to heal.

It's common for a teen to feel "misunderstood" and emotionally abandoned. However, with time and experience they see how painful it is for a parent to stand by and watch their child go through the pains of growth, knowing that if they step in, there will be no lessons learned. I'll let my son stumble from time to time, but as a parent, will not let him fall all the way.

At least this isn't a "the world has done me wrong, the reason I'm like this is mommy and daddy didn't show me enough attention as a child" story, so the parents in question must be doing SOMETHING right.

Cheers.

Answer 2

This is the reason why you stand stronger than you would've been if you had not suffered. Each person must endure pain and overcome adversities in order to improve physically and emotionally.
We all have our stories to tell. Since you were able to say yours and can see the brighter side you aren't in denial. That's good. It still hurts and the sting might never leave you but at least you believe in yourself. Continue to grow that way.

Answer 3

Parents are everyones blessing or curse. You are born with them and therefore they are not your choice.

Many of us begin our lives with such great expectations of our parents, expectations that one by one will crumble and fall when we realize they are not as rich or smart geniuses as we NEED them to be. Lol.

They will say things to hurt you, squash your genius, give you pennies for allowance, deny you basic possessions, and are stumped for answers on truly basic information.

As you grow up, some built in memory eraser will remove all of these experiences. Believe me. One day, you will finally be grown up, your recollections will be dim, and you will remember only the love they had for you, all the tiny sacrifices they denied themselves so it can become yours, and supreme attempts to mold themselves to fit your expectations.