How many of you have hubbys that have jobs outside the home, that they go to 8 hours a day with a maybe 1 hour commute at most each way? How many of those husbands tell you that you have an easy job? How many of them don't realize that they clock out of their job when they leave to come home and you can never clock out? There is always laundry to be done. There is always rooms to clean. Dishes to be washed. Floors that need to be cleaned. Bathrooms that always seem to need to be cleaned. I am a mother of 3 children, ages 5 and under. I am constantly the nurse, the teacher, the playmate, the chauffeur, the maid, the cook, the police officer etc. I don't clock out at 4:30 and don't get to put down my duties at the end of an 8 hour day. I am often up in the middle of the night with sick or scared children. Children who have had wet of their bed (so therefore doing laundry at 3 in the morning) you get the picture here.
Want to give them one of those V8 type smacks in da head?
2007-09-02 02:57:33 · 13 answers · asked by mommagoose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only way for your husband to have a paradigm shift is to leave him alone with the house and kids for a longggg weekend. Plan a weekend away with your girlfriends, go visit a friend or relative. Once he does what you do for four days it will really change his perception. I did this when I was feeling unappreciated and he begged me to never leave the house again, for anything! He now worships the ground I walk on and lends a hand when I need it.
You also need to realize the stress and pressure he is under. Being the sole provider for a family these days isn't a cake walk.
Find the balance between you and you'll both be much happier! Learn to be thankful that you have a hard working husband and three healthy children and a home to take care of. Good luck :)
2007-09-02 03:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am what i prefer to call ANAL. i like things a certain way in my house. i notice when things are out of order or if there is a furball in the corner of the room. my honey isnt so concerned. he will help out to an extent and puts the rest off. I FEEL the rest is uo tme b/c he doesnt make an attempt to just wash the dishes b/c they should be done or clean the tiollets is they need to be wiped down (im not the one that "drips" why should i be the one to wipe it off all the time?)
i have stayed at home and all i have are 3 sheperds and 1 3 year ld boy-i cant do that. my life I FEEL is in constant turmiol. i would rather work and give myself that break for 8 hours. i feel for you-some can do it, i know i cant!
but still-after working in an animal shelter for 8 hours i come home and hes napping on the couch while the dogs need to be fed and the yard needs to be cleaned up and vacuuming needs to be done, ETC! he does do alot here at the house but i really dont see mowing the lawn as an actual chore. stuff like like that. after i can only take so much and finally snap he sends me away and says 'fine i will do it'. he will follow my list (i make to do lists, thats how anal i am) and yes get it done but then hes exhausted at the end of the day. "GEE-how does it feel?" that 'wow shes right' thinking doesnt last that long tho and we are back to square one.
i wish i could tell you exactly what in a straight mans mind is wired that way or why but i feel the tention too dear! just know that you are NOT the only desperate house wife. i work out side of the home and i feel that way too. (then he wonders why sex is the last thing on my mind-that gets to be like a chore as well)
rage on and hope you find the answere. if EVER do i will def. let the secret out!
2007-09-02 03:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by texas red 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband helps around the house when he comes home from his 9-5 job. He has seen that taking care of 2 boys (8 & 3) is not an easy job. Since the boys behave better for me... They turn themselves "loose" when dad comes home. LOL Try going to the store and leaving the kids home with him. It MIGHT be an eye opener.
2007-09-02 03:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree there are many men out there that think that, my husband, luckily, is not one of them. I try to think of it like this....men can only do one thing at a time and they think very differently to us so to them, a hard days work would be more like half a days work to us because we can handle better then they can. I usually feel sorry for them because if they tried to do a week of being a mother, they would probably beg for mercy. Also i dont want this to sound the wrong way but our bodies and minds a made for different jobs so thats another reason i think men get so arrogant, because they will never really understand. They just cant.
2007-09-02 03:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by emesumau 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he thinks that your job is SO easy, then don't do it.....leave the spills, the dirt, the toys, the kids in their PJs all day! Then when he gets home, he'll probably ask you what the heck went on and you simply tell him that you were entitled to a day off. He'll see that you actually have work to do instead of sitting on your **** all day.
2007-09-02 03:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Canaan S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not me because I truly believe being a stay at home anything is a waste of life. If you're not a 'stay at home' then why are you doing all the work? That would just make you stupid.
I'm only answering because you need to stop pretending that you have a job. You don't have a job because you don't get paid. You have CHORES!!!
2007-09-02 03:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Every man thinks he's Superman and nobody could be able to do the majesticly wild job that they do. Men are wimps. They don't appreciate what women do, but take the woman out of the picture and they're begging for us back.
2007-09-02 03:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how many women out there don;t care what a man does for a living, and just whines about the man pitching in when he comes home from a 12 hours day at work. i bet you watch the kids, eat bon bons, and watch soap operas. if you spent half the effort used to whine about your chores and DO them, you'd have them done and even more time to complain about something else on yahoo.
2007-09-02 04:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL...you got it. Most men do think that way. My husband used to do that also. I am not sure how I got him to change his mind but, as we have gotten older he has realized that woman do work hard all day everyday. About three years ago he decided Sunday was his night to cook dinner....
2007-09-02 03:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't have that problem my husband and I both work, me parttime, but we share household duties, like dishes, cleaning, vacuuming,changing diapers, cooking, feeding the kids, but he does the lawn and yard work. He's a great guy!!!
2007-09-02 03:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋