My oldest son dad just had baby with his girlfriend. We never had dated. I had alot of thing againist his dad. I am wondering I should come and visit and meet his baby girl. He want to be friend with me. I am trying..
2007-09-02 02:40:07 · 19 answers · asked by Proud mom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My son is 5 year old. His dad only calls when he want his son
2007-09-02 02:44:10 · update #1
i don't think you need to be concerned when he is not a part of your life. the only thing the two of you have in common is your son. it may cause jeolousy with the girlfriend and you are not interested in him anyway. i think he is trying to create a net for himself to fall back on. you are not obligated to do anything for him except be a good mother to your son.
2007-09-10 02:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you have to be the better person, yes that would be nice of you to get to met your sons new baby sister, but that does not mean that you have to do it over and over, just show him that you are a good person, as much as you dislike anyone it's not the children's fault that happen to be brought into this world, I have two daughters with this guy, he already had two kids before we ever got together and I love those kids to death like my own, the best thing you can do for your kid is to get along with his dad that will make your sons life alot easier growing up. If my kids dad had another child, I would have to go meet the kid becuz that is how much of a good character I have, I might not like him, or like the idea of him having another child with another person, but life goes on and you want to make it the best for you kids. Also that child is going to be apart of your sons life in some way while he is growing up, you never know that may be the best thing that ever happened to you child. But then again you said you guys never dated, if you guys really didn't have much of a relationship together, then the best thing to do is just stay clear of his business, for him to call only when he wants his son, girl let me tell you that is the best way to keep it, if you don't want any unwanted drama with him or his girlfriend.
2007-09-09 10:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Boo Boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your son's father wants you to meet his new daughter he will bring her around for you to see her. Otherwise, until she is older, you really don't have the right to inflict yourself upon the new girlfriend/mom. Mixed families can be a nightmare. It takes really mature people for it to work out and since you have alot against the man you probably harbor ill feelings that would eventually come to a head. Stay away until you can get over those bad feelings. A card of congratulations and a request of a picture of your son holding her with dad's help of course should suffice for now. You can display it in your house so your son feels connected even when he is with you.
2007-09-06 18:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by mein1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation.When my son was 4 his Dad had a son with his new partner.I only saw him when they came to collect my son to take him out but always made a fuss of him-it's a baby what else can you do?????
Now that baby is 8 years old and comes for sleepovers at our house to be with his big brother!
It's up to you-it does make life easier and I know that the children love spending time together.You see so many screwed up families but try and put aside the bad things his father did and try to enourage your sons relationship with his new sister-he will love you for it when he's older!
2007-09-02 02:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the proud mom that you are but NO dont go see the baby. Why would you care about a different baby that he had with another woman? Your relationship is over, accept it and move on. Care only about your son that you both share equally, other than that I would say no dont meet the baby, but dont keep your son from seeing her either. As far as being friends with your ex I say HELL NO!
2007-09-08 18:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask if the girlfriend wants you to come over and see the baby. I would probably think that she doesn't. However if she does, than just be polite and when dropping off your son over there, go in and take a peak. What can it hurt? The baby didn't do anything wrong to you.
2007-09-02 02:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure I am following.... But gonna try.
You had a child with a man that you never dated? You dislike the father of your child.
No you should not meet the baby. You should not be in these people lives outside of the fact that your sons father has contact with you in order to see your son. They have their lives, you have yours. Two separate entities... You should remain civil as you have a child together and both look to the best interests of your child but to become involved in this mans current life is pointless in my eyes. If your son visits his father than he can have contact with his "sister" but you are not essential in this equation.
2007-09-02 02:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by libragurl66 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your first priority is your Son. No-one else. So be nice about the dads contact, don't speak bad about the father in the boy's presence, and get on with your life. Time heals all.
2007-09-09 19:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an amicable relationship with your ex for the sake of your son. But that does not mean you should go and visit his new child! What makes you think his new girlfriend wants you there anyway?
2007-09-02 02:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by M. Rod 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have a lot of things against this guy, why would you want to?
On the other hand, for the sake of your oldest son (how many have you?), you might want to be friendly, if this guy does anything for you and your son (i.e., child support payments, etc.). But if he DOESN'T support his boy, forget him!
2007-09-02 02:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Bryce 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋