2007-09-02 02:22:52 · 27 answers · asked by graces 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to think really hard about this. Did he only cheat once? Are you sure that he is telling you the truth now? In my opinion, once a cheater, always a cheater. You need to search your heart and see if you want to go through a marriage where you dont trust him. TRUST ME, it is very hard to do.
2007-09-02 02:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Sorry that you had to go thru this, but chances are, if you forgive him, it will enable him, in his mind, that he could get away with it again some time later. Without knowing anything at all about you, him of the circumstances, I'd recommend that you accept the fact that he broke your marriage and that you should leave him and move on with your life. I seriously doubt that he will remain faithful to you. Obviously he had some reason for having done it. Not that that makes it right, but if whatever it is does not change, and it usually doesn't then the motivation will still exist and there goes the trust.
Sorry, but you should consider your marriage over and begin thinking of a new life and being alone for a while.
hug
2007-09-02 09:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is genuinely sorry and it is the first time its happened then id say everyone deserves a second chance. If its not the first time, no matter how sorry he is i think it would be impossible to trust him again.
I have been in a similar situation, my partner cheated on me 7yrs ago, he has never done it since, but even now i still have moments when i question my trust for him. He has to be willing to help build your trust up for him again, and be patient with you during the process
2007-09-02 09:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by sammie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is repentant and willing to work hard to rebuild the trust he damaged, then he will have to earn that trust again.
He is the one who did the damage, he broke promises and hurt you. He will need to do what is necessary to rebuild that trust.
He needs to stop all contact with the affair partner. He needs to work on his issues that lead him to cheating on you, such as alcohol abuse or whatever. He needs to be open with his life, his communications and accountable for his time while you work to trust him again. Now is not the time for him to be crying about his privacy, he broke that trust and needs to do whatever is necessary to rebuild that trust.
So, it's up to you to decide when you can trust him again. It may take time to get there and he will have to earn that trust.
2007-09-02 14:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot depends on the circumstances, but how on earth could you just trust him after he lied to you and broke his vows? If you decide to stay and try to work it out, then you have to actually DO IT, give it a good try. If you don't think you can ever regain the trust then move on. I just hope there aren't any kids involved.
2007-09-02 09:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my ex-husband cheated on me 3 times and every time I thought he wouldn't do it again, but he did. Every relationship is different, so if you feel in your heart that he isn't going to do this again then maybe you should try to work on it. But if you don't forgive him 100% then it will not work. Good luck and I wish you the best.
2007-09-02 09:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by crazyncgirl2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry! This is a hard situation.
If it was a mistake one time thing, he might not do it again. If he isn't kissing your butt, then I would worry that he might do it again.
It will certainly take a lot of time for you to build that trust and he must understand that. Give it time. If you love him, I would try and make it work.
Good luck honey!
2007-09-02 09:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Tostito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It doesn't matter why, he broke the trust. Once it is broken you can't just trust that person again. If you want to give it another chance then make him earn it all over again, his mistake lost it now he should have to fix it.
No do not trust him, leave or make him earn it.
2007-09-02 15:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by bkdrm41897 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How COULD you trust him???? He cheated, which means he lied, or at least deceived you. Sooooo, you know he isn't trustworthy. Do you expect us to magically provide your husband with a morality pill? He is cheating scum. You want to lie to yourself, and tell yourself he's worthy of trust- go right ahead. Or, face reality, and accept that your spouse is scum. Boot him, or live with a cheater. Your choice..
2007-09-02 09:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's hard to trust after someone has cheated especially when it's your husband. I feel if you take him back he might think he can do it again because you took him back the first time. I know you love him and if you want to take him back then you will need counseling. serious
2007-09-02 09:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋