I am 30 weeks pregnant with my Ex husbands nephew?

Question

I am 30 weeks pregnant with my Ex husbands nephew. He already has 2 children with other partners but doesnt want anything to do with me or our baby. What would you do if you were in this situation?
I do have other children.

Answer 1

I was in a similar situation. I had broken up with my partner and started seeing a friend, who after 6 months I fell pregnant. It was a very rough relationship and I still loved my partner. We broke and I got back with my partner after 2 months (at 5 months pregnant). I was worried and scared and confused about having this baby. The 'father' wanted me to have an abortion, but already having a child, I could never do this. I was dreading the day the baby would come out, my partner had said he couldn't handle if it was a boy, and this is what I was scared of most. I had been told all through my baby was a girl, on birth day my baby turned out to be a son, I cried, but as soon as I held him, he was mine and he was what mattered most and came first infront of any man. My partner did stay with me though and we are better than ever. I havn't gone for child support and the 'father' doesn't want anything to do with my baby boy, but thats his loss. I have to say it would be very complication if access was involved and dont think 2 homes is beneficial for a child.

Dont worry, because when your beautiful baby arrives, it will all change- your baby will be number one. He is just a man- I'm not saying that to be offensive to men, just children should come first.

Good luck, and congratualions on your pregnancy, I hope everything turns out well for you.

Answer 2

and people always wonder why remarrages have problems - especially with kids - the biggest problems now a days - is when there are divorces in the first place over the wrong reasons - the right reasons are usually for cheating and unfaithfullness - lieing - or a combo - and unfortunatly people get way over protective and pay attension to their own children out of protection then the spouses children and to top this off further - now a days you cant even disapline children who misbehave with out being sued or lose custody from a vindictive ex spouse or drama - so i would either accept the situation and try to raise the kids as is and hope for the best - or i would end it - and hope for the best - you know your situation better then anyone can answer - if its been only 2 years and already these problems are this bad - then i would even consider a seperation until the children are living on their own - if thats an option - im only saying this because usually someone who is 40 years of age - that doesant have a problem with drugs - alcohol - or cheating - or dishonesty - would be a keeper - and a good man - and usually for a long term - no nonsince - no games and no balony - but the problem is when you deal with exes and kids are involved - things always esculate way more then nessasary and the kids sometimes manipulate things too - so i dont know what else i can say - you both seem to be at least trying - but the ex spouses seem to be winning for some unknown reason

Answer 3

How old are your other children? Have you discussed this pregnancy with them and are they old enough to understand that this is their sister or brother?
If they are really too young to understand, I would put this baby up for adoption. The child would get a stable home with all of the love and support is needs and you can focus on getting yourself together.
If the children are old enough and they understand what it means that you are pregnant, I would still consider the adoption process but if you think it would be too hard on them, then yes, I agree with the other users, just pursue this guy for child support (which will be hard and painful) and take some time to go back to school and get more control of your life.
P.S. ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!

Answer 4

So are you CARRYING your ex-husband's nephew, as your grammatically incorrect question suggests (ie been shagging your husband's brother)?

Or have you been impregnated by your nephew (which still means shagging your relatives in any case)?

Either way, if I were you (and thank God I'm not) I would consider getting sterilised and stop having children with multiple shagging-buddies which, undoubtedly we, the taxpayers, will end up supporting when your men abdicate!

Then consider having your children adopted so that they will have a least the opportunity of being raised by a better role model than you will ever be and hopefully put an end to the usual cycle of parasitic behaviour families like yours encourage.

Answer 5

As it his not his child but his brothers how do you really expect him to act ? he has no need to have anything to do with you or child if thats hows he feels, maybe he is hurt you are having a baby by his brother?
unless you have children with this man, then move on you are not helping yourself this way

good luck with your baby all the best

Answer 6

your head is not just something that is put over your shoulder.you should have thought things over before you get yourself pregnant.but anyway,you cant do anything about it now instead of take full responsibility of your present situation.if you can demand for child support,go ahead but you must find a good job to be able to support your kids after you give birth.you cannot do anything for whatever happened but there's more you can do for today and for your future and the kids' future as well.

Answer 7

woow you are already 30 weeks pregnant..don't you think it too late..if this child's father doesn't want him.you got 10-11 weeks left..now you cannot to do anything..you have to give birth to the baby and p.s from next time on do not have sex with someone who's already married or don't want to marry you..how can you do that..what will you say to your children??
think about it.

Answer 8

Ahhh a puzzle. To be pregnant with your ex-husbands nephew, would mean you had sex with your husbands brother. I would say you made your bed, you lay in it. Can't say as I blame him, its not his child and you slept with his brother. If it were me, I never would have slept with his brother to begin with, lots of other non-related fish in the sea! Child support in order for all the babies you have and their respective fathers.

Answer 9

Oh dear you must be in a state but think do you want this baby?think long and hard can you cope ?this was lust and its not the we baby's fault but you need to decide go to your doctor?he will help you decide?and yes Evan he wants nothing to do with you he has to support the baby take two to tango ,don't despair tell a friend or Evan your mum she will always stand by you?good luck what ever you decide its for the best

Answer 10

Collect child support. Then stay away from your ex husbands family for goodness sakes!!