2007-09-02 01:10:08 · 24 answers · asked by fefe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just let it go. In the big scheme of things, that is such a small thing. My husband forgot to get me a card for our 10 wedding anniversary. I said something to him and he said he was sorry and I let it go. There are way to many other great things about him that I am not going to sweat the small stuff and neither should you!
2007-09-02 14:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our next anniversary is our 40th and I think we have both forgotten about three quarters of them. One of us usually remembers about four weeks later and says 'OMG it was our anniversary last month'. We love each other all the time and anniversaries have never seemed very important. To be honest we are not very good at birthday cards either!
So don't get up tight about it. Whats important is how you are with each other on the other 364 days in the year.
2007-09-02 04:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by KEVIN G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd FORGET his birthday. Men always have to be number one when it comes to their celebrations. Mine has to have a present if he's got me one to the same amount, if not more and he sulks if he doesn't get what he wants. But if he's short of cash when it comes to my celebrations then he thinks that's OK. but he'll buy drinks and stuff for his workmates to make him look good even if cash is tight or go out for meals at lunch time even when we haven't had enough money for food in the house. He also has the attitude of what's mine his his but not the other way around and he can always find money for whatever he wants. Some men are basically selfish, but that's the way some are brought up.Mine was brought up not to share and always take the biggest portion & it's stayed with him for life. You can't make a leopard change it's spots I thought I could but it doesn't work.
2007-09-05 23:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Soup Dragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband, over the years, has "forgotten" birthdays, anniversaries, Mother's Day, Christmas gifts, etc. It bothered me a lot, sometimes I gave hints, then I just stopped. He loves me, and that's all that counts.
For an anniversary, though, it's easier - because it's something you can plan together - and discuss what you would like to do with him.
2007-09-02 01:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have only been married for 3 years and could not care any less about my anniversary. And my Husband knows this. I guess it's all about your personal opinion.
2007-09-02 02:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very hurt and start considering other options. If he really loved you, he wouldn't forget your anniversary. He might be steppin out already. You need to seriously take a hard look at your marriage and ask yourself if you are really happy. Is he really happy? Maybe try couples counseling to get some discussion about your true feelings.
2007-09-02 01:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Michael D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey I am so sorry.
I am going through the same thing...only it is not just our anniversary it is my birthday too.
I have always gone out of my way to make his birthday special and our anniversary..But whenever I say nothing and wait to see what happens...NOTHING happens!
Every year I tell myself that I will forget and do nothing for him...like everyone does nothing for me..But I am not that kind of person.
I just brush it off and pretend that next year will be different. (Which it never is, but one can always hope)
Blessings and luck to you!
2007-09-02 03:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The damage is done, the question is, "How badly do you want him to feel?" and "Do you see jewelry in your future?" . It is what it is, he forgot, don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. A little guilt, a little hurt and little gold will help everything! Because he forgot does not mean he loves you less....
2007-09-02 02:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cheri >^.^< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how deeply hurt I was and that I thought he was taking me for granted.
Guilt trip time, but only because you have to make sure you are not being taken for granted. It is easy for people to become so comfortable with each other that they don't make an effort anymore. Nip it in the bud and make him take you to a VERY expensive restaurant or buy you a very special present instead. And give him a bit of a reminder a couple of weeks in advance next year!
2007-09-02 01:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by finch 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, the honest answer is I would go really sulky, probably have a go at him, then we'd have an argument and they'd be a bad feeling for days,..........
The IDEAL thing is to talk to him about, calmly but assertively. Tell him this date is important to you and that you're disappointed that he forgot it. Try not to attack him, but make sure you get your point across.
Hopefully he'll then get you a nice bunch of flowers as an apology!
2007-09-02 01:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by Clare 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋