I having an affairs with married man very nice guy and charming we respect each other privacy. His a successfully businessman before but unluckily his buss drop. He love me so much want to provide and give me everything but he scared how to give the best if he dun have nothing right now . He dun want to commit to say want to marry me coz dun know how his future but he still want me flocking around him without future promises. I make decision to left is it I m do a right thing left him in hard time and I dun want do a bad sin anymore feel guilty be his mistress even his very nice guy I ever met. Im 34 and his 45 years. He like give up with his life and left him do I
like nasty girl.
2007-09-02 00:51:31 · 7 answers · asked by Baby Doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey.
I also just left a married guy.
We were working in the same place and fell in love accidentally. We tried very hard to do the right thing and stay away from each other. For 3 years. Then work threw us together again. And for the last few months, it has been hell. We were sometimes together. Sometimes not. And all of it depended on whether his wife wanted him back or was too busy to be with him.
I learned to hate his wife. And him. For not being able to decide. Saying "I love you's" endlessly and yet hurting me with every lie about his wife.
So now he has gone back to his wife. I am sad. But I think it is best this way.
For both of us. You and me. If he truly loves me, he would divorce his wife and come to me as a free man. If he stays married, then he will cannot be anything to me. All his words mean nothing. And all his gifts are just that. Things. Things and money.
And I am not something that can be bought.
And so he should stay away.
I miss him. But seriously. You are not being nasty in leaving him. You mess up his life being with him. Your presence upsets his wife, his children, his family and his reputation.
And you have nothing in return. All that you do for him, he will return to his wife. There is no future. You live for scraps of time with him that his wife doesn't want.
You and I, both deserve better than that.
2007-09-02 05:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by blundering fool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun! Your not any more special then all the other girls he's had an affair with, you're not the first one or the last one. He says he loves you so much.....well he says that to all of them as well, it's a game for him, you're boosting his male ego. He may even have more then you as a girlfriend at the moment. Do yourself a big favor, drop him and find yourself a good available man. You're wasting away your best years!!
2007-09-02 07:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wanted to leave his family and start a life with with you, he would have done it. This is how affairs end-- not with someone saying they don't want to see you any more, but with excuses about why they can't. That way none of it is his fault. His conscience stays clean and he gives up absolutely nothing.
2007-09-02 08:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by palan57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you maam..this guy is leading you down the wrong road deliberately. He is never going to leave his bread and butter (wife) and he sounds like she is supporting him and he is dead broke..If I were you sweetheart I would run for the hills, broken heart and all cause this my dear is a disaster waiting to happen...open up your ears and listen...that quietness that your experiencing is your heart telling you that something is not right dear..guess what/who it is!
2007-09-02 08:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin from experience he has no intention of leaving his family for you. Avoid him like the plague!!!!!!!
2007-09-02 07:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homewrecker!!!
2007-09-02 09:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what your problem,
2007-09-02 07:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by lavell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋