Do you follow arranged marriage system, yourself? If yes, then will you choose one amongst a set of men whom your parents recommend you - or do you blindly obey and agree to marry only the person your parents have decided for you?
2007-09-01 23:53:42 · 11 answers · asked by jazzman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey bud, take it somewhere else we are trying too ?? what are we trying too do?? Just take it somewhere else&*^%&^
2007-09-02 00:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by lavell 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I was forced to. I told my parents to pick a guy for me to marry since my heart wasn't in it, and they just wanted me to rescue some poor dude in exchange for him taking care of me my whole life. But they decided to let me choose from a recommended few. Given this oppurtunity, I decided to play along, and actually like my choice. So even thought I didn't agree in the beginning, I like the outcome....and hope for the best.
2007-09-03 13:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First think I want to say that arrange marriage system is not menace blindly obey & agree the parent's decision.
In arrange marrage first we have to see the all backround then you emotionaly attach with them.
In love marrage you have first attach emotionaly with them & then see backround ( & offcouse true love marrage).
Only that is difference other part is same.
2007-09-02 01:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by adraut1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-13 23:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditional indian women are free to choose their husbands since ancient times, this practice was called "swayamvara" where when a women reaches marriagable age her parents invite all prospective grooms and the women is given free choice to select her husband by garlanding the man she loves and makes him her husband.
Today the ancient practice of swayamvara is a little different with the girl being shown pictures of prospective grooms along with their bio data or by logging on to matrimonial sites like bharatmatrimony.com, shadi.com etc and going thru the profiles of grooms and choosing the one best suited to her interests and attitudes.
The girl may also choose a boy whom she meets in college or at the job etc. She would then inform her parents who would screen the boy to make sure he has clean habits, is financially sound to take care of his wife, follows traditions similar to the girls family and o.ks the proposal if all the compatibility factors check out as o.k
Conservative families dont force a girl to marry against her will since they dont want their daughter to be unhappy in marriage. They assist her in selecting her husband since she may not have mingled with many men and hence be in a position to make a choice from the limited number of men in her social circle. Parents want the best for their daughter and dont want her to make a choice which could ruin her future and that of her children and hence play an active role in helping their daughter make the right choice.
The girl is allowed to meet various prospective grooms and inter act with them up until the time she finds someone she likes. Once she makes the choice, they are engaged and given time to get to know each other and once they are comfortable with each other they are married in the presence of all family, friends, guest etc so the marriage has the stamp of approval of the entire society.
In case the girl has made a wrong choice from the groom shown to her by her family the entire family stands behind her.They give her moral, legal and emotional support. She is even ecouraged to get on with her life by finding another spouse who is capable of taking care of her.
Parents only want what is best for their children and hence have played an active role since ancient times in finding prospective grooms for their daughters.
2007-09-02 00:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U are FREE to do what u want a do! i totally not agree with arrg marriages and all that ! this is ur life and u have to do what u want a do! if u want a marry than do if u dont want dont marry thats simple!
2007-09-05 03:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by elodie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, life, death and marraige is not in anyone's hand... it's destiny.... there are many.... who got married by their parents choice, but those couples are not happy... but there are some other couples who r happy by their arranged marriage... similarly in the case of love marriage... i am not a very very traditional women or conservative.. but i feel it would be better to get married by my parents choice, as they have seen life better than me.... after that... it's all destiny....
2007-09-02 06:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by delhigall4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to get married a girl/boy must meet his/her match . whether east or western the meeting is essential. and consent direct or indirect from the girl and the boy is essential with one big differnce. indian girls and even the boys are mostly virgins whereas the westeners are mostly adulterated.
2007-09-02 00:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have confidence on my dad because he is a good friend to me.i will ask only 1question "why you choose him ?"
if it is convenient i will
2007-09-02 01:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it vary from one woman to other woman
2007-09-02 02:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋