....meeting my mother's wishes is almost impossible, so I gave up on that one ages ago and only follow my heart, but I'll be curious to know what you think...
2007-09-01 21:21:02 · 23 answers · asked by Jesus is my Savior 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
.... I should have said "parents" really.....
2007-09-01 21:21:37 · update #1
What if your parents are posh and you are not? what if your parents never knew real love and would not be able to recognize it? I am not talking out of personal experience this time, just wondering...
2007-09-02 03:22:14 · update #2
I like to think like Khalil Gibran...
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let our bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Your mother - or your parents - love you. But I believe it is the job of the child to experiment and find for one-self.
I hope to be able to be a parent who will encourage my child in the path of self discovery. Should I not be, I hope my child will be strong enough to do as she sees fit in her life... I'll be here to catch her should she fall... :) that is my job as a parent.
A mother will always wish for your own good... only the definition of good may be different for you and for her. Go with your heart.... I believe that is our only chance to "shoot for the gold".
2007-09-02 00:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Usually, mom knows best. Situations involving yourself, your mom and your feelings can be really tricky sometimes. This is where common sense should apply. If there are no red signals in your partner and your mom still doesn't approve of the relationship, then something must be wrong with mom's judgment. But if mom advices you not to go with a guy who seems to be kind but had a history of domestic violence, uncontrollable fits of anger, vices or being a heartbreaker, then I say better listen to mom.
95% of moms in the world only want the best for their daughters, but if it has come to the point that she disapproves even of the nice guys, then it's time to separate your relationship with her from your romantic relationships.
2007-09-01 23:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course,parent is the most important thing for me in the world..They treat us with true heart and try their best to protect us..Without them,without us..
Since they dote us and love us,sure hope us happy forever too..For me,when I find a person that I really love...I won't give up so easily...Because fate,we are met..And because love each other,we become a couple...I am very hope that parent will agree and support us everything,include love...I am happy,they will happy as well...Just hope parent and lovers can live happlily together...
2007-09-01 22:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by cjy x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it meant that my parent's wishes were almost impossible, then maybe. Otherwise I would have to wonder why my parent's advice, which is usually sound, doesn't line up with the wishes of the one I love and proceed accordingly.
2007-09-01 21:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well parents care about you and would never ever try to lie to you or hurt you even if you hurt them they would still love you and forgive you, on the other hand a stranger might care about you and love you to death for some time but if you argue alot with him and start telling him your feelings every time and when you be honest with him like you do with your parents...this person may get annoyed and try to leave you ,just think about it why bother staying with some one that always argues or never does what he says when he has plenty of obedient woman available?? i think your choice should please your parents as well cause they care about you and know whats right for you..
thank you.. : )
2007-09-01 22:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by RoChEr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there,done that. But it's my dad,anyway. I dont listen to him,he was just being unreasonable. I've done what he wanted and still acted crazy. Everything I do is wrong in his eyes,just didnt know what he wanted exactly, so i decided to make my own decision. I love my fiancé and i know he's the right man for me. Getting married next year, with or without my dad's permission.
2007-09-01 21:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by The Bookworm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I already have. I flew across the country to be near him. And I don't regret it one bit. I soooo disagree with "parents first." If the parents are unreasonable, then you're better off doing whatever is best for you, not them.
I should add that I am in my 40's and well old enough to make my own decisions. That may make a difference.
2007-09-01 21:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lovebird♥ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have to follow my own wishes for I am the one that has to live with the one I choose not my mother...Mine was the same way..
2007-09-01 21:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jay & Gigi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't then you will never be happy and you may regret it in the long run. Just tell your parents that you love them and respect their feelings and thoughts but this is the person you love and want to be with
2007-09-01 21:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by countrygirl969702 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweety when you find the one you love,as you have, go for it! Shoot straight from the heart! Don't let him get away! You can still love your Mother and have your heart's desire! Your Mom has lived her life! Now it's your turn! Good luck!
2007-09-03 06:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Me 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋