I feel really, um, I guess, betrayed by my family. Been working for about 3 mo.s at a night job w/crummy hours, trying to adjust to that. Family's been really good about letting me sleep - a lot, more than I'd like to- feel like I'm neglecting them. But--they don't seem to notice. Makes me feel like I'm not needed. And..I get 1 wkend a mo. off. For Sept., they gave me this one (just Sat & Sun). That's it for next 30 days, don't even get two days in a row off the rest of month. So tonight, I wanted to have a little family time, listen to music(my thing), play some games, whatever. Instead--they go rent movies. They know I don't like to sit and watch movies. They have every weekend this mo. to do that, but they go do it on my wkend off. I wound up sitting on the back porch by myself, bored, unable to even get on puter cause daughter and friend were on it. I know, I'm wallowing in self pity. That's why I took my pic off -- I need anonimity right now.
2007-09-01 21:13:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think I should add something here. I'm the mother.
2007-09-01 21:33:43 · update #1
That sucks man I feel for you. I work nights to but I love it cause I don't like sunshine if that makes any sense to you. You have to do what you have to do to provide for your family and sometimes you can't always get what you want. If It helps I have not seen my family in almost 5 months and it will be another 7 months before I get to see them again. So at least your family is with you and you know what there are people that have it way worse than me so keep your head up and keep on working things will get better.
2007-09-01 21:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bleed the Freak 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nights are hard
and feeling like spending time with loved ones is harder
i know what you are going threw i have been working night from 1999 and mostly i get suck with the weekends b/c I'm the newbe on this shift
i told my boss when i was hired that my days off had to be together or it would not feel like i had time off
and he has been pretty good about it
talk to your family and let then know how hurt you where by what happened and tell them before you go to bed the day before what your plans are for spending time together. if you have to b/c no one is up, leave a note. i have to do that some times
i hope it gets better for you!!
2007-09-02 04:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by jennyforrich 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry things are so rough for you right now..i understand why you feel so betrayed. i would feel the same way. Maybe they think renting movies keeps them out of your way and gives you time to yourself..they might think you need it. I'd talk to them all about it and let them know how much you need their company on the one weekend a month...so you can all plan something next month that's more family oriented.Good luck .. Feel better!
2007-09-02 05:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They've gotten into a routine that works for them, when you are gone. If you want things to be different, talk to your wife. Sit your family down and talk about what is bothering you. Or, get your wife to make sure no plans are made for your next time home. Get a Walkman and if you don't want to watch movies, you can listen to your tunes ! (I don't know many teenagers that want to listen to the same music as their parents.
2007-09-02 04:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're working these crummy hours to make life better for them and they are adjusting "too well" to your being gone. I feel you! It would be nice for them to share the time you get to have together, but they are just going along with their normal routine. Speak up! Tell them you want to spend some time together and pull out a game, make some popcorn or nachos and say hey, we're gonna have some fun!
2007-09-02 04:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I presume they would like to watch movie, because they like watching movies.
Instead of being bothered you should get your lady out, like a date, you should make a plans and insist on them.
I know that it is not easy to work such a crapy shifts, so ask what you want and show them that it is important to you what is going on in their lives although you don't really have much time lately.
2007-09-02 04:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what are you five???? suck it up. Give your family a little credit. Maybe they thought you were going to do your own thing since you only have one weekend off. Next time tell your family that you would like a family day on your next weekend off. And find some activities of your own. I think you feel lonely but you are not alone. Don't take your loneliness out on you family. You need to find your own happiness and you are the only one that can do that.
2007-09-02 04:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by gaby 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋