Ok, me and my gf got together about 6 months ago. We are engaged, and she was about 2 months pregnant when we got together. Her ex (the biological father) is trying to get shared custody when it is born, but we don't want to give it to him. If he was a good guy, we would be glad to, however that is not the case. He stocked us when we first got together, he is immature, an alcoholic, and tried forcing us to break up, and forcing her to go back to him on more than one ocasion. My question is: should we still give him shared custody or should we fight for full custody? (We are getting maried next week.) Either way, she wants him to pay child support.
2007-09-01 20:58:13 · 8 answers · asked by crashedata 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
visvardis - you want a guy, who stocked us, is a severe alcoholic and has been in and out of jail his whole life to get shared custody? umm... I don't care about his money. I make 65k a year. She wants it, not me.
2007-09-01 21:10:42 · update #1
We have all ready got a Temporary Restraining Order against him, and had him throne in jail once, when he refused to leave our property, then started kicking my car. So I think we have documentation.
2007-09-01 21:14:54 · update #2
Go for full custody and request that any visitation be supervised until he can prove himself as being a fit parent. You have the documentation to prove your case, the child's safety should be #1 concern.
2007-09-01 22:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one I DOUBT this guy STOCKED you...maybe he STALKED you but Not STOCKED you try using spell checker once in awhile your story might be more tangible. Anyway...YOU won't be doing any fighting in court because YOU are not related to the child. YOU are not a biological parent of this child. Only the MOTHER will be fighting in court. He may not get joint custody but he WILL be awarded visitation rights and YOU have nothing to say about that. The court will not determine custody/visitation based upon what the mother and her boyfriend WANT they base it upon what is best for the children and the children deserve visitation with their father and neither you nor their mother has the right to keep him from lawful visitations. As for custody that is normal...of course he will have to pay custody...
2007-09-02 10:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not healthy for the youngest one to be excluded in this way and could be very damaging. After all how does he think you cope 24/7 with all of them, he needs to mature and have all of them, not least it's his responsibility and you are entitled to have a break. Try suggesting he has them for a shorter time period for a start until he gets used to having them all together or at the very least he should alternate who has if he only will agree to having two at a time. I would put my foot down and lay some ground rules to him having them all or not at all.
2016-04-02 23:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight for full custody. if he still does that kind of stuff.. see if you cant get it on camera as evidence. i dont mean get him drunk or anything but if he is a bad person then you should definately fight for the child especially if the baby's saftey could be in danger.
2007-09-01 21:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can prove he is an unfit father he cannot get custody.
If you have documentation of the mentioned offenses this should be no problem.
2007-09-01 21:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by blueink 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope don't give him custody get goo d lawyer and you get full custody. have him put in jail anytime you can good luck
2007-09-05 16:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you want his money just not him huuummmm what about a fathers rights i hope he gets shared cusody
2007-09-01 21:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by clever1 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-09-05 03:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋