I am married and was asked out by another married man for a date. I agreed to go our with him and we ended up kissing. I am really glad I kissed him and I dont feel bad or have any regrets. We have no intentions of a relationship, we just went out for some fun.
Was it bad of me to go out with this guy? Y dont I feel guilty? Now I feel like I want more kisses from him. Could this get me into trouble?
2007-09-01 19:19:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course it could get you in trouble. It could cause the break up of two families and everything that comes out of that. This is adultery. If you don't feel guilty that is because you may be a selfish person, well actually, doing this is an indication that you are selfish and self centered. If you want to maintain your marriage, you better stop meeting this guy and don't do this again. You must be feeling some guilt or you wouldn't have asked the question on this forum.
2007-09-01 19:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My first question was going to be do you still love your husband? But I think I will change it to have you EVER loved your husband? I only ask because you state your marriage was arranged. If you do not love your hubby, get out of the marriage.
You do not say how long you have been married. Perhaps you are just hitting a dry spot in your lives. I am certainly not going to criticise you for what you did because I do not know all the circumstances. I try not to judge people unless I have walked in their shoes.
But I do give you this bit of advice, I think you may have more to lose in this than he does. It is still a guy's world over there and whereas the stigma is not what it was, it still appears to be worse for a divorced woman than a guy. Not fair, but the reality. And don't kid yourself, that is where you are heading.
Another thing, I assume you work and this is where you met him. Hmmm, be careful because there are innocent people involved here and regardless of how you feel towards this guy, these other people do not deserve to be hurt. Do they?
But ask yourself, is it only kisses you are looking for? Because as a guy I can tell you that the day is going to come (soon) where kisses will not quench his thirst for you.
What will you do then ? I am not saying what you should or shouldn't do, but remember, if he did this with you, well ............
and remember, you should only fool around with people that have more to lose than you do....... And don't expect him to ever leave his wife
Good Luck
:))
2007-09-03 15:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by ezgoin_newyorker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huny I think you know the answer to this already yourself. Your heart is obviously not into the engagement. You need to call it off before it's to late. I know first hand what a marriage is like when it's w/ someone that you don't love or have anything in common with. If you go through w/ the wedding then you will more than likely end up in a divorce in a few years if not sooner anyway. The thing w/ Zach should answer this all for you. If you truely loved Adam you would want noone except him and the Zach thing would not have happened. I think your heart is trying to tell you something. So I think you should listen to it and back out now before it's to late and you cause yourself more pain and suffering later.
2016-03-17 22:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not that stupid, and I know that because you are asking all the right questions that you know all the right answers to. Of course you were wrong, and of course you shouldn't continue to see this man again. And once again, of course this bad situation will get you into trouble...and you don't care! Why cheat on your spouse? Leave your marriage and then you can have all the fun you want. If your marriage was worth saving you would have a conscience about what you are involved in, but you said it yourself...you don't have any regrets or guilt. Leave your husband, so you can both find happiness. Wouldn't you want your husband to at least do that for you? Of course you would.
2007-09-01 19:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't feel bad kissing him because you don't feel the love from your husband. Or you don't love your husband anymore. Either way, you need to stop it. You are married and he is married. There are too many people will get hurt if your affair continues. If you are not happy in your marriage then I suggest you to try to have a talk with your husband. Try to mend the relationship. If it doesn't work after a few times trying then both of you can try to go to a counseling. If that doesn't work then I think it's time for you to end the marriage.
2007-09-01 19:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give us any information about what state your marriage is in or whether or not you love your husband? I've got to assume that there's a problem at home if you don't feel any guilt over this incident. It may seem like an innocent kiss right now, but you obviously liked it and are comtemplating taking it further. I sees trouble a brewin'.
Oh... I just noticed your handle. Guess you are unhappy in your marriage. Is divorce taboo in your culture?
2007-09-01 20:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this has trouble written all over it. What would either of your spouses think if they knew that their partners are going out and kissing another married person? I don't think it takes an Einstein to figure this one out. Hell yes this could and probably will get you in trouble. take a moment and visualise your husband and the other guys wife going out together. Not the best situation for a marriage is it?
2007-09-01 19:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband dont cheat on him, if you dont love your husband dont stay with him, divorce your husband so you can have all the fun you want as a free bird but dont cheat because you have no conscience.
I think there is something really wrong with your marriage if you can cheat and not feel a thing. You are going down a path which will only cause heartache not only to you but also to a lot of other people as well.
2007-09-01 23:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will definitely get into trouble. The fact that you're both married. Maybe you're just attracted to him. IF the Relationship Continues this will not only grow as trouble for U also for U R Family I am saying about U and U R husband and his Family and also to U R mothers family as well as U R childrens future. As this continues to happen it will be creating a wrong relationship between U and that married man or also any man.
2007-09-01 19:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Ramasubramanian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends!! - Next time you get out you will end up corking your hole with his pole and still will not feel guilty of it, you would probably repeat it with someone else and then someone else - a typical making of a prostitute!!
Don't you think you are behaving like those b i t c hes you see amoung the pack of dogs that you see in the streets??
2007-09-01 22:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋