Me and my wife are seperated after 17 yrs of marriage since 3 years. We have 2 sons and they are with her. She is too free spirited. My sons are suffering the insecurity of not having a father living with them. I am lonely and I miss them too much.
2007-09-01 18:51:46 · 12 answers · asked by Pinto777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bring back your wife & children. You should not involve any legal way out for all this but just leave your ego & get united as a family once again. Let every thing be forgiven forgotten between both of you. You both should now think about future of both your children. The personal bickering between the spouses should not prevail over the welfare of the children. At this age you both are mature enough to understand the importance of marital & family life come first on you agenda then any other issue. Involving lawyers or marriage counselors means bring all sort of legal issues, rights & benefits etc which can be sorted out amongst yourself as the life goes on in a united family once again for all of you. My suggestion for all this is based on my own legal professional experience of 24 years. I always suggest the disgruntled couples to sort out their personal issue amongst themselves, & not to wash their dirty linen in public. Rest there may be legal remedies such as decree of Restitution of conjugal rights & custody of children but these means, wasting time, money & bringing more indifference between both of you.
2007-09-01 19:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If she is a free spirit then you cant change that. Also you shouldnt go back cus of the kids, they will pick up on bad vibes between their parents and will suffer in the long run. Be there for the kids see them as much as you can and spend happy times with them. Kids can be secure with parents who live apart as long as they feel loved and safe when with both
2007-09-02 12:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, ask for forgiveness and dont stand in her way if she wants to be a free spirit and do whatever she wants.
Forgive her mistakes without making it into an issue. Tell her you love her and the kids and would like one more chance to be a good father. But give her the freedom to be as a free spirit because if you dont this will lead to divorce.
2007-09-02 06:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach her talk to her in the open with no 3rd party involvement - It would sort your problems.
Do not even think of using Judicary or the Legal or Law'n Order Machineries - they never have succeded in making a craked family they only seem to be very successfull in tearing apart the families and feel high on succeeding in doing so!!
2007-09-02 05:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kid. I understand your problem. But you must not lose self respect.
Make an objective assessment. Will her returning help the kids, or her 'free spirited' ways will afect them adversely.
I also doubt whether you are telling the truth or not. Why it took you 17years to understand that she is 'free spirited'?
If you feel that her returning will benefit the kids, just tell her to come back for kids' sake. If she comes, fine. if not, take care of kids and do not marry again.
s.
2007-09-02 13:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be able to do anything to get her back. If I were you I would just be nice to her, and start trying to date her again. If she is responsive, then maybe you have a chance. If not, then you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want you anyway. Try to be around more for the boys. If she is free spirited, then she should welcome you taking them more often.
2007-09-02 02:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by lifeisgood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r the father u have also the right to meet them....fisx with her that she or u get the kids for the weekend...n fix the holidays...n the most important thing is ask the sons....n wen she does ot talk like a lady get a lawyer n fight for ur sons.....u have the right..there i am sure
2007-09-04 13:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by miss.h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did not mention the reason of seperation. Grownup children are with their mother shows mistake is from ur side. U have to win her confidence and show love for her. It may ressolve.
2007-09-05 15:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how much water there is under the bridge and what all happened in the 12 years..
if she is free spirit.. and wants to move on there is nothing u can do.. except be there for ur kids..
keep them with u as much as possible..
lay ur cards on the table with her.. then walk away calmly,, and tell her ur one phone call away...
2007-09-02 01:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how bad you messed things up.Don't give up on her.Keep reminding her about your kids.At first tell her you can just move in to be there for the boys.Then slowly winn her heart back by being super nice and careing.
2007-09-02 02:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋